Great news about sex …
Sex is good. Part 1
Song of songs 1;Song o songs 3 vs.1,2;Song of songs 4
By Herbert Mtowo
Sex s good! What a way of starting an article, sounds crazy hey .But it’s a fact, this is one crucial topic people need to have open minds and hearts to deal with it without feeling bad about it. Strange people want to have sex as often as they can, but aren’t comfortable to talk about it even with their partners. Those most involved in the study of sex are the most to acknowledge our continuing ignorance. Tell you what, physiologically and psychologically, much of about the human experience of sex remains unclear and part of the mystery is rooted here, in the limits of our current understanding. Others turn away their heads in shame at anybody who mentions the word sex, sad we don’t realize the impact of the act(sexual-intercourse)on mankind such that we still cant find answers to many a question on the minds of the youth and even the married with any years of sexual experience both young and old still cant come to grips with it. Yes I have good news for yah, sex is good.
Read through this article along with me. I believe this is adult stuff which is not talked much in homes and churches very often. The reason why we have so many relational problems is because there are two topics which have not been fully addressed or taught about and the time is now, so that we minimize the damage. Sex and money are topics which stain millions of relationships, because many are not comfortable to openly discuss on these and many other sensitive matters. This is a first in a series of these many so called sensitive topics to talk about. Yes I will be writing about sex and money, the cause of many break ups and divorce cases in relationships and marriages. Join me lets sit and dine.
If I may ask these two questions to both male and female, how any of you would go ahead and commit and marry your life to your partner if you were to find out today that they have just had their manhood cut in an accident or your woman’s vagina has been accidentally damaged at work, chances are high that t will never work again. Tell me how many of you would still go ahead and marry the person and commit your life to them forever.? Talk to me somebody ! In my travel and work with people from various backgrounds, color ,religion, ethnicity and nationalities, one thing I have concluded is that they all agree to their need and desire for sex ,such that both men and women who, are according to us are old, still talk about it and long for it, let alone still get involved sexually with a passion.
Sex is good, a simple statement and yet often disputed. Some see sex as evil, a source of shame to be avoided by those pursuing holiness. Others regard sex as an unpleasant, if necessary, part of the uneasy union of body and soul. These and many negative evaluations of sex represent more than past history. The truth be told sex lies at the hear of the most vexing social problems of our own day: rape ,incest, pornography, teenage pregnancy, abortion ,AIDS, divorce because of infidelity the list of problems is long. Sex perplexes our personal lives and we find ourselves both excited and confused by our bodies, with their desires and their hesitancies. Did you know that some of our best moments in life-and some of our worst moments in life involve sex, Our creativity finds expression in sex ,as does our destructiveness’. Genital arousal turns us outward in love and care, but it can also turn us in self-absorption.
Can you imagine that, God delights in your body-with its erection or menstruations or aching loneliness? Impossible! The evidence seems too compelling: we all use physical strength to strike out in violence, we misuse sex to abuse others and degrade ourselves. Too often our bodies are instruments of disorder, co-conspirators in our worst behavior’s is demeaned by others, because many look at it a s way of reproduction only, but hope our mindsets and view of sex will change if we are to enjoy it fully. Sex should be fun, great enjoyed and not just a way to let go stress, it should be done as away to love, have pleasure and form of enjoyment. Sex is not intended to be done and enjoyed only when we want to make babies, but it’s is pleasure to the body ,mind, soul and relationship. Others are already tired about making passionate love, because they are done with making babies, sex is great, fun exciting, whether babies or no babies. God meant it to be enjoyed.
Though sex still remains mysterious, but what we do know about sex is hardly mysterious. Check this, sexual reproduction links the human species with the rest of the animal kingdom. But the arena of sex is one which humans differ most from other animals. With most animals sex is seasonal, for a brief period of time at a biologically determined stage of development males and females are capable of mating. Outside such a mating season most animals display no sexual activity at all. But the attraction and union of women and men, by contrast, doesn’t depend on a mating season. Sexual activity among humans is less controlled by biological cues. This is fascinating, and the responsibility to manage and deal with human sexuality is more demanding than imagined. Sex is the a source of our greatest delights and most painful confusions. In the experience of sex we can come to a profound awareness of our won goodness and worth, in sex we can also come face to face with the inner conflicts and compulsions that drive us. In sexual intercourse we sometimes experience a communion so profound that it shatters the illusions of our isolation. Some people also use sex to punish themselves, to control other people and to diminish joy.
Mystery of sex
Sex is almost always about something else or something more. Sigmund Freud’s most influential contributions though most controversial contributions has been to show that much apparently nonsexual behavior is sexually motivated. And sex therapists today tell us the reverse is also true: factors that have little to do with sex motivate a good deal sexual behavior, from flirting to intercourse. Sexual love, as it grows, moves beyond mutual absorption. We learn that being for one another doesn’t require us to be indifferent to everyone else. Love enriches us, giving us more of what is best in each of us. Have you ever know or thought of the reality that sexual sharing opens new questions, of trust and vulnerability, of belonging and commitment, of autonomy and interdependence The Christian teaching emphasizes that sex finds its home in commitment, and commitment gives passion a place to flower and fruitful.
In returning to the original meaning of the poem by King Solomon-song of songs, the best love poem of all time: Scholars are reinforcing the wisdom of the word of God. More and more bible scholars ,teachers ,sex therapists are urging the institutional church toward a more whole hearted recognition that sex is good. The stirring in our bodies is one of the roots of our creativity; it draws us to others; it ignites the attraction that sustains the fruitful commitments of life, in friendship, in marriage, in devoted love. Sex is with its unexpected awakenings and unearned delights, an echo of creation. Finally we know that in our sexual lives we often find spiritual healing. And our physical embraces soothe old wounds and make forgiveness tangible. In the intimacy we share with a sexual partner, the reality of God’s goodness and forgiveness finally becomes more than rhetoric.