My Princes be valuable ( A repeat series)
To all women out there- By Herbert Mtowo
Sweetheart, you need to make a clear distinction between being “beautiful” and “valuable”. I want you to be extremely valuable. Let me tell you why.
God created you to be protected, and as your daddy, it is my responsibility to guide you in paths that will keep you safe, even once you’ve grown into adult life. That’s why I want to explain the difference between being ‘beautiful’ and ‘valuable’.
Women Have Value
God created women to be highly valued. Women have great value and a godly woman is highly prized. The worth of a “virtuous woman” is more than precious jewels (Proverbs 31:10).
The objective of every young woman should be to rise to her highest value. I want you to be so highly valued that everyone recognizes that you are among the most special women in the world. It is up to you to create and to maintain that value, so your husband, your children and all you come in contact with will know that you are a rare and most valuable person.
Beauty Cheapens Women
It sounds wrong to say that beauty cheapens women, but it proves to be true for many. Natural beauty, while it is a wonderful thing to have, causes a woman to be looked upon wrongly. A woman can have natural beauty, but also have an evil heart, a cruel tongue, a selfish attitude, an enslaved life and an unhappy future.
Yet if a woman has beauty others will give her credit for having character and worth, even if she does not have them. Lustful men will pay her attentions which will flatter her heart and give her power to manipulate others.
Beauty, on its own makes no guarantee of happiness, success, godly character, fulfillment or true value. That’s why I want you to focus on your value, not your beauty.
Proverbs warns us that “beauty is vain”, which means it does not guarantee anything. It has no lasting value in itself.
“Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the LORD, she will be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
Beauty must be a secondary consideration, not a primary focus or distraction.
Character before Beauty
If a woman has beauty, but not godly character, she will be tempted to become vain about herself, thinking she has value which she does not have. Some women seek to make themselves look alluring to men, as a way to give themselves value. They think that if men look at them or lust after them their value as a woman is confirmed.
King Solomon makes it clear that a beautiful woman who does not have character does not have value, but destroys the potential value she should have developed.
“As a jewel of gold in a pig’s snout so is a beautiful woman with no discretion.” Proverbs 11:22
You will remember from the delightful play, “Ugly Duckling”, by AA Milne, that the princess was thought to be plain to all except the one who was to be her prince. This is a very good situation to be in.
The Princess had been under a spell by a caring godmother, to look plain until her wedding day. This was done because the godmother “didn’t want me to grow up spoilt and willful and vain, as I should have done if everybody had always been saying how beautiful I was.” “The best thing in the world was be quite sure of yourself, but not to expect admiration from other people.”
By being thought of as the Ugly Duckling, even though she was really quite beautiful, the princess was able to explore life without distracting concerns about her beauty, or of having to deal with shallow attentions from those who only saw her beauty.
The Prince saw both her beauty and the delight of who she was as a person. That’s an ideal situation.
Remember, you will only have one husband. He is the only one who need think of you as beautiful. If everyone else pays you no attention for your beauty you will be spared the process of being cheapened by the cheap self-interested attentions of shallow men.
Find Your Value
Girls who fear that they may not have real value will easily become sidetracked by their attempts to look attractive. They will focus on their external appearance rather than their internal worth. They will compare themselves with other women only in terms of appearance, not in terms of character. I don’t want you to do that. I want you to find your full value and live it to the full.
Find your value by being a woman of God. Be a virtuous woman, for there are too few of them. There are so few of them that all who fit that description gain the highest value.
If you find your heart being drawn away to thoughts of your own beauty or your power to attract attention from men, then you are in danger of losing your true value.
Be a woman who fears God.