Maintenance and Repairs
There are few things better than a good marriage or worse than a bad one. Sadly, most fall into the in-between category: just mediocre. Why? They’ve gone too long without maintenance and repairs. How’s yours today? Has it quietly fashioned itself into a smooth well-worn rut? Do you take each other for granted or do you, like the ones that ‘go the distances,’ find new ways of renewing your love and keeping the relationship fresh?
Sam Levison said, ‘Love at first sight is nothing special. It’s when two people have been looking at each other for 25 years that it becomes a miracle.’ Listen: Wives, understand and support your husbands … Husbands, go all out in your ‘love for your wives’ (Ephesians 5:22-25 . Max Lucado writes, ‘Someday is a snake whose tongue has mastered the talk of deception. “Someday,” it hisses, “I’ll take her on that cruise … we’ll have time to sit and chat…” But you know the truth before I even write it, don’t you? Someday never comes! Wise up! Invest the time. Send the flowers. Write the letter. Make the apology. Take the trip. Purchase the gift. Do it! The seized opportunity brings joy – the neglected one brings only regret!’
The emotional intensity level in your home is like the volume on your radio; when it’s set too high, you live in an atmosphere of continual crisis. One disagreement and you’re headed for the divorce court. Your child misses their curfew by five minutes and it’s World War III and let’s not even talk about how you when you’re behind the wheel of a car! Listen: ‘Do not be quickly provoked…for behave anger resides in the lap of fools’ (Ecclesiastes 7:9 NIV).So, how’s your volume level these days? When it’s set too high, your emotions dictate your reactions, you talk without thinking and you leave a trail of bitterness and pain.
Dad, every time you storm out of the house because you don’t get what you want, when you want it, the way you want it, has it occurred to you that you’re teaching your children to do the same? Mum, when your daughter hears you say, ‘All men are alike; they’re no good,’ has it dawned on you that she might grow up never trusting or allowing herself to be emotionally available to anybody? How will you feel living with that? Reduce the volume! Lower the intensity level! Destinies are being shaped by your words, your behavior, and your attitudes. God says, ‘Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret – it leads only to evil’(Psalm 37:8 NIV). Today, listen to what He’s telling you!