By Ed Robinson
The secret to happiness has always been through giving not getting. There are few things more important than being there for other people in your life when they need you. Life can be a hard at times. At some point, everyone will need a shoulder to lean on, someone they can confide in and maybe even a helping hand. Sadly, many of us suppress our feelings and resist asking for help because we are worried by how it will be perceived by others rather than finding strength through them.
I’ve always believed you get a true sense of a person when they are managing through adversity rather than riding the wave of good fortune. It’s easy to put on a happy face when things are going well. However, some people do seem to get an inflated sense of self and become too judgmental of others when things go their way. When you are down on your luck it becomes much easier to get a sense of your own vulnerability. We are all human and human beings need respect, love and support. “No man is an island.”
Instead of narrowing your circle I encourage you to broaden the number of people in your life you care about. Rather than spending too much of your times worrying about your own happiness or lack thereof seek opportunities to help others. Resist rushing to judgment and strive to be more compassionate and empathetic. Ask people how they feel and what they need and genuinely mean it. Actions always speak much louder than words.
We are all on this ride called life together. Ultimately what happens to your neighbor does affect you. The greater the distance the more subtle the impact but it is still there nonetheless. You can do what most people do and avoid or criticize the situation or you can try and make a positive difference in someone else’s life when they need you (especially when it is difficult to do so). It’s a good idea to remember that life has a way of humbling us all.