The young lovers who walk around holding hands, giving each other a hug, and every now and then stopping to kiss briefly. Perhaps such signs of public affection make you feel uncomfortable. Perhaps you have forgotten how wonderful it was to be in love for the first time. Song of Solomon 1:2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for your love [is] better than wine. Song of Solomon 4:11 your lips, O [my] bride, drop [as] the honeycomb: honey and milk [are] under your tongue; and the fragrance of your garments [is] like the smell of Lebanon. You see them everywhere.
The question I would like to ask you now is this: “How often do you and your spouse kiss each day?” Do you give a quick goodbye kiss in the morning? A hello kiss when he gets home in the evening? The second question I would like to ask is: “What kind of kisses do you give each other?” Are they just a quick pressing of the lips together, or is there a greater interaction between you when you join your lips? Does that kiss still excite you and send shivers down your spine? Does it still make you feel like you are floating on the clouds? Solomon told us here in the Song of Solomon that kisses are better than wine. Well what is so good about wine? It is not only the smooth, sweet taste of a good wine that you enjoy, but the wonderful feeling it gives you as the contents get into your blood. When is the last time you got “high” on the kisses of the one you love? Do you spend time expressing your love in this way until you begin to feel light headed? How should you kiss? What is the right way to do it? Do you have to ‘get it right’ to show what a wonderful lover you are?
The maiden in the passage above simply says that she loves the kisses of the mouth of her lover. They make her high like wine, only much better. Does this give you the impression of a quick peck on the lips? It sounds to me like a whole lot of kisses repeated over and over until the emotions soar. The man expresses his impressions in more detail. He says that her lips are like honeycomb. Have you ever tried to eat honey from the comb? You have to really suck it out if you do not want to chew the wax. But he describes her lips like honeycomb dripping with honey, and then he also describes her tongue as having milk and honey under it.
So here it is then folks. Scriptural proof that “French kissing” which involves using the tongue while kissing has been around for some time, and is even in the Bible. Then it seems the man was also turned on by the smell of his wife’s perfume, because he spoke about the smell of her garments. So if you want to impress your husband, it seems that a good open mouth and nice perfume are all he needs to get high on your love. What does the woman want from her man? Some real tenderness expressed in loving kisses from his mouth. There are some other things also which help, but we will talk about that another time. We will be looking at a lot more from the Song of Solomon, and perhaps you will be stirred to really experience the fullness of the passion and physical love that the Lord has created for you in marriage.
But for today, why not try just this one simple little thing: Kiss your spouse more often. There is an old expression that says “actions speak louder than words”. One of the most powerful actions you can carry out to express your love and to tell your husband or wife that you love them, is to be found in this simple act. Get kissing more today. It will change your marriage.