FEELINGS AND STABILIZING OUR EMOTIONS


Herbert Prince Mtowo

My life reads like a never ending novel, so much to look back, so much to thank God for, so many loses, so much rejection, lots of pain and so much to weep about and so much to look up to God and be grateful. It`s sad its mostly thought of to be weak when a man sheds tears of pain, loss and regrets, because we have too many fake masculinity, though inside they are shattered and hopeless. Emotions love to control our actions and reactions, even though we do not want them to dominate us. Society often sees emotions as a sign of weakness so people are used to setting their feelings aside to become more rational. You will always have to deal with feelings no matter how logical and rational you become. I don’t know about you but i know what it is to be hurt and have nobody to turn to but God.

One of the vital facts in regards to emotions in contemporary society is the fact that even though we desire one another to live by reason we still must use our emotions as a healthy gauge for a total sense of well being. One of the vital facts in regards to emotions in contemporary society is the fact that even though we desire one another to live by reason we still must use our emotions as a healthy gauge for a total sense of well being. I know what it is to have my emotions really hit me hard and my nights turned into sorrow, the loss of loved ones, the loss of  what I dearly loved and being scandalized and not sure what the future holds, bring out emotional insatiability that one never thought existed in their human body.

Our emotions permit us to communicate with our humanness like no other sense that we enjoy. We laugh, cry, experience anger, and all of the other emotional feelings we use on an every day basis. In my personal experience as a counselor I have heard and come across some really difficult situations, and even in my own life, but one thing I have concluded, it remains God`s number one priority to heal wounded hearts. Some of my writings I have penned them when the future looked bleak not knowing what shall become of Herbert, and just a flicker of hope remaining and hoping another day will bring a ray of light. I know what it is to have loved ones snuffed away from my world painfully and think and hope it was just a dream. Writing is a way of communicating to the outside world, a way of bringing healing to many, and why most of you enjoy my writings is mainly because they are based on real life issues, and my life has been broken down into a million pieces and at times I have wondered how will God ever repair this fragmented and crushed, broken and wounded heart. My word to you is we all are hurting one way or the other, all we need is to allow God to take us through the process of healing which may take a very long time, but we must allow God to do it at His own pace and not ours.

The point is if we listen to society and try to disengage ourselves from our feelings we are in more danger than if we live by our feelings. The latter gives us an up and down yo-yo type life style, but on the other hand to disregard our feelings is disastrous. Our emotions permit us to communicate with our humanness like no other sense that we enjoy. We laugh, cry, experience anger, and all of the other emotional feelings we use on an every day basis. One will never enjoy life by avoiding his or her feelings. The Creator has given these wonderful feelings for a reason. Just because they get damaged in life is no reason to throw the baby out with the bath water, so to speak. What is needed is to get healing where our emotions have been damaged and learn to feel all that there is to feel in life. Using all of our senses to live is real living. There is great benefit in striving to live a balanced life, rather than be on the extreme in one direction or the other. Neither will lead to a total healthy life style.

In the allopathic and western medicine world they have lost touch with the basic concept of true healing. They substitute a band-aid for a cure and do you wonder why they don’t feel better. People get ill for many reasons. Each diseased state is telling us that we are ignoring some part of self and change is necessary. While many factors contribute to healing and it happens on many levels, all require attention throughout the entire healing practice. Ignoring the mental, emotional or spiritual bodies would not provide adequate and long-term good health.

Emotions are the foundation on which we build our life. They inspire and they limit us. Joy, bliss and happiness along with anger, fear confusion and unworthiness make us a whole person. Anger is often the impetus of motivation to accomplish goals while fear has the exact opposite effect. Confusion on the other hand, keeps whiling thoughts spinning causing a cloud of chaos. Happiness and joy are contagious and elevate everything we do. But why is it that joy is often the least experienced while fear, anger, confusion and unworthiness dominate? Happiness is indeed, dependent on our total well being. Therefore, take a hard look at your emotional well being to see how you add up. If you are not sure ask someone who knows you. They may see your life a lot clearer than you do.

At times we may even need to talk with a counselor. Seeing a professional is not a sign of weakness. Actually, it is a sign of strength. I urge you all in times of breaking point seek help, turn to God always but you need also other people to stabilize your life. I believe we don’t have to sit and mourn, regret and wish forever, buckle up, dust yourself up and get on with your life. Be a champion of your future.

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