Climbing the hill toether

By Herbert Mtowo

Song of Solomon 2:6 His left hand [is] under my head, and his right hand embraces me.
7 I charge you, O you daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that you do not stir up, nor awake [my] love, until he pleases. 8 The voice of my beloved! look, he is coming leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills. 9 My beloved is like a roe or a young hart: look, he stands behind our wall, he looks out at the windows, showing himself through the lattice. 10 My beloved spoke, and said to me, Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away. 11 For, look, the winter is past, the rain is over [and] gone; 12 The flowers appear on the earth; the time of the singing [of birds] has come, and the voice of the turtle is heard in our land; 13 The fig tree puts forth her green figs, and the vines [with] the tender grape give a [good] smell. Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away. 14 O my dove, [that is] in the clefts of the rock, in the secret [places] of the stairs, let me see your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.

The passage above can best be understood if it is interpreted to describe the wonder of the final climax in love making. It begins with the intimacy of holding and touching, and leads finally to the fullness of the sexual experience. Notice especially the consideration that each one gives to the other. Yet how often does this truly happen in your experience? How often do both you and your spouse give each other enough consideration to make sure that both have a fully satisfying experience during love making? If you do, then you will understand some of the symbolism of this passage. The first stage is one in which you embrace and begin to touch each other. The sense of touch is probably the most important of all in love making. But where do you touch your lover to bring them the greatest experience of pleasure? This is something that varies from person to person, and each one has a nervous system that might be different. We all have parts of our body that are more sensitive than others, and they are not always the same for every person.

So which parts of your spouse’s body experience the greatest sensation of pleasure when touched? This is something that you should have found out by experimenting a bit. Or were you so keen to get to the orgasm that you did not take the time to touch, fondle and stroke each other? For a man, the sensation of penetration can be so strong, that he needs little else to come to a place of climbing that mountain leading to the final peak of the love making. But for most women it is not quite the same. A woman needs to be touched and stimulated far more then a man, because she is not immediately aroused by the sight of her husband’s body, as he is by hers. But there are no fixed rules. Each one is different, and you should take the time to explore each other’s bodies to create the most wonderful love making experience possible. Often the longer you take to climb that mountain leading to the peak of pleasure of the sexual experience, the greater your final experience will be. For the man it might involve holding back until his wife is fully aroused. But this is not always the case. Sometimes even a man needs some kind of foreplay and build up in order to fully enjoy the experience of love making.
So take the time, and if necessary, make the time to be tender with each other, and to touch each other, rather than just rushing in and getting it all over with. It is an investment which really pays off. A woman, who is given this consideration more often, is more likely to get excited about making love more often. But if you just rush in to satisfy your needs before considering your wife, then do not get angry when she finds excuses to not make love tonight. The passage above describes some of the feelings that come when love is approached the right way. Touch soon leads to talking, and expressing your love in words, or just emotional sounds.

Notice the woman describes the voice of her husband as he is quickly aroused, and he wastes no time on moving into the position for love making. But he is not a selfish man. Instead of satisfying himself immediately, he waits for his wife to catch up. He encourages her with the words, “Rise up, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.” He knows that once he has come to that peak, his part will be over, so he holds himself back, and encourages his wife to rise up first and be satisfied ahead of him. He speaks a lot more to her, painting some beautiful pictures to help her relax and come to the orgasm first, so that they can then move into it together. The chapter ends with a lovely description of the woman encouraging her husband as he too comes to that wonderful place that God has created for us to reach in this wonderful experience of love making. The two have become fully one and the experience is so wonderful that you feel it can last all night.

My beloved [is] mine, and I [am] his: he feeds among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee away, turn, my beloved, and be like a roe or a young hart upon the mountains of Bether. Would it not be wonderful to experience this every time you make love? It can be possible if you both consider each other, and go about pleasing your partner first instead of satisfying your own desires first. Song of Solomon 2:16, 17.
It is indeed true, as the Word says, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

Cimbing up the mountain making love

Finding solutions to your problems

The unconscious mind that produces your dreams possesses undoubtable wisdom and can help you in all ways. You only have to translate the meaning of dreams according to the right method (which was discovered by Carl Jung) in order to find real solutions to various problems that keep torturing you. I simplified Jung’s method after discovering a lot more concerning the meaning of dreams.

Today learning the dream language is as simple as learning a common language made only by words, like Spanish or French. You simply translate dream images into words.

The unconscious messages are poetic and philosophical. They are not empty words. Many times, only for being able to understand the real reasons why you have a certain problem you will already be relieved.

You make many mistakes in life, and you have many absurd ideas. When you try to find solutions for your unbearable problems you are blocked by many obstacles because you cannot realize your own absurdity.

For example, you insist on working in a field that is not compatible with your psychological type only because you believe that you’ll make money this way. You have many false friends who don’t care about your happiness, and keep irritating you. You have a problematic relationship but you cannot admit that you are wasting your time.

Your life is basically characterized by many contradictions that keep increasing and keep causing new conflicts because you insist on following your absurd ideas. You want to fulfill your desires without paying attention to various limitations that prevent you from attaining your goals.

You cannot see the truth because:

* You keep being influenced by the wild side of your conscience (anti-conscience), which is totally absurd.

* Your behavior is determined by your psychological type, what means that you pay attention only to the points that you want to observe.

If you belong to a psychological type based on thoughts, you tend to build your life based on what you think that should be good for you, without paying attention to the way you feel.

If you belong to a psychological type based on feelings, your life is based on your emotions. You tend to make ridiculous extravagances and act like a child.

If you belong to a psychological type based on sensations, you care only about having pleasures in life. You accept immorality without thinking twice. Nothing is more important for you than the way you feel.

If you belong to a psychological type based on intuition, you live thinking about tomorrow without paying attention to what is happening to you today. Nobody can understand your sudden reactions.

On the other hand, if you are introverted, you live in your own world. Your own opinion is sacred.

If you are extroverted, you are a person without personality. You always agree with everyone else.

You are so absurd that the wise unconscious mind that produces your dreams in order to save your mental health must work very hard in order to show you how crazy you are.

For example, I will analyze the dream of a 55-years-old man who lost his job and who has various problems with his partner. She is his second wife. He has two children from his first marriage and another child with his second wife. He had a violent argument with his oldest son about the way his son is living the day before he had this dream.

He dreamt that he found three big snakes in an open field where he was walking alone. He tried to kill the snakes with a gun. However, the snakes disappeared. He didn’t know if he had managed to kill them, or if they were running away. In the end he had no bullets, but the same snakes appeared again.

A snake in a dream represents a bad event that will correct a certain mistake that the dreamer is making. Since he found three snakes, this means that he will have to face many bad events in order to correct various serious mistakes.

The fact that he tried to kill the snakes with a gun indicates that he believes that he can eliminate various dangers through violence. However, his failure shows him that he won’t be able to escape from suffering. The bad events will be always waiting for him.

The three snakes indicate three mistakes in three different fields of his life. The unconscious mind will show him why he lost his job, and how he will be able to find a good job now. The unconscious mind will also help him fix his relationship with his wife, and have a positive relationship with his children.

When you understand the meaning of your dreams, you understand what kind of mistakes you are making, why you are making these mistakes, and how you can finally stop making mistakes in life. The unconscious mind helps you become a balanced human being.

You become as introverted as extroverted. You develop your four psychological functions, instead of acting based on only one well-developed psychological function, and another one or two half-developed psychological functions.

You acquire total consciousness. You always understand the meaning of your actions. You never act without thinking. You never disregard the human pain. You always know what is good or bad. You immediately find all the solutions you need. You are always calm, mature, and self-confident.

Solutions to problems...

The Mystrey of life

Sometimes though I just have to bite the bullet and assemble something myself, because it is the only way to buy that particular item. Life doesn’t come pre-assembled either. You are given the pieces and it is up to you to put it together yourself as best you can.

You can’t order life ready made. It always needs assembly. The pieces are all there but we each put them together differently. There are no instructions and sometimes we don’t get it right first time, having to take things apart and put them back together again several times before our life is the way we want it to be.

I went to see some friends recently and they had just got back from buying a new set of bookshelves. My friend had got the shelves put together at last when he noticed that the grain was upside down on several of the shelves. It wouldn’t matter too much and they would work just as well, but he insisted on taking the whole thing apart again to get the shelves the right way up. His wife thought that it would be fine as it was, but he preferred to take the extra time to get it just the way he wanted it.

Life is like that too. You can have it put together and functional, but then feel the need to take it apart again so that you can reassemble it slightly differently. This may be your own choice just to make it fit your personal preference, or it may need adjusting to fit new circumstances. Whatever the reason, taking your life apart and reassembling it gives you the chance to improve your life and make it more satisfying.

You are never going to assemble your life just once and then leave it at that. Life tends to need reassembling many times through one lifetime. What works at one stage in your life won’t fit you later. It can be exciting to reassemble your life or it can be a nuisance. Look at it as an opportunity to improve your life and tailor it to the new you, and it will help you keep positive as you fit all the pieces together once more.