We all know the painful statistics: nearly 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce. 1 in 3 children can expect their parents to divorce. We are eternally optimistic. We believe we can beat the statistics! A recent Louis Harris survey found that 96% of college students want to marry or already are married. Ninety-seven per cent agreed with this statement — “Having close family relationships is a key to happiness.” When we get married, we often stroll into the courthouse, purchase a marriage license, and off we go to a short ceremony. We get married at a church, in a garden, at a home, or some other location. Everyone is excited, patting us on the back
. We get the “congratulations,” then we are shoved out the door to figure out how to do it, how to be married. And every other couple walking out the door will face divorce. “Marriage is difficult,” we tell ourselves. But marriage is NOT as difficult as we make it out to be.
The problem is, we don’t know what makes a marriage work, what the secret to a marriage really is. Couples who discover the secret (really a series of secrets) survive. And if they learn enough, they thrive. Then, they realize that marriage is not difficult, you just have to understand it. We just love to moan and cry about how difficult it is to be married and stay married, much less how to be happily married. Now, there is a choice: keep buying that little myth or discover what marriage is really about. Unlock the secret of marriage!