sTOP THE MADNESSThe Oscar Pistorius`s case is almost a repeat of the O.J Simpson Déjà Vu. In O.J Simpson`s case two people were brutally murdered a Nicole Brown Simpson and Ronald Goldman were stabbed to death.Their bodies found in the front courtyard of the Nicole’s condominium in Brentwood. The recent rape cases by gangs in India and South Africa,sends shock waves to the world and with more questions than answers as to what has become to mankind. The girl child and women are at a more greater threat,not from the lions and elephants in the amazon forest,but of men who prowl day and night,heartlessly,to brutally kill,rape and inflict all forms of pain and violence against them.

The recent gang-rape and murder of Anene Booysen has shocked the country into action. But what can be done?It is not good enough to teach our sons not to rape. What we need to teach our sons quite frankly and honestly is that a woman is not some “thing” placed on this planet just to satisfy whatever desire you have. Muted whispers that girls can do whatever you can, but not really, strips girls and women of the humanity and the accompanying respect they deserve. And only recently they said 90% of women who are raped don`t report their cases,because they know that,the cases will just be thrown away either for lack of evidence and not taken seriously by our Judiciary systems.

In Sudan, Fatima was just 15 when she was gang-raped in front of her mother. Seven months later, and by then heavily pregnant, the schoolgirl was arrested by the Sudanese police and charged with fornication. They threatened to whip Fatima if she didn’t pay a fine, exploiting her forced pregnancy to turn her into the victim of an extortion racket.

“They asked me who was the father of my baby,” Fatima remembered, twisting a piece of paper between her fingers. “I told them that I didn’t know. There were seven men on horses. Three of them raped me and four of them beat my mother. We had gone to get onions from our farm.”

The police threw Fatima in prison in Bendisi, western Sudan, while her family tried to scrape together the 20,000 dinar (£45) fine – a large sum in a country where the average annual wage is just £200

Should our governments and courts continue to be accommodating to such monsters who have become part of us now? Silence,and reasoning isn’t part of the solution,you and me have a much far demanding task,to make sure that such evil practices have no place in society. SHOULD WE CONTINUE IN SILENCE,and let the girl child and women be wiped away,or live hurtful and unbearable lives.. WHAT HAS BECOME OF SOCIETY TODAY,THIS BOGGLES THE MIND REALLY and SENDS SHOCK WAVES TO EVERY PARENT AND PARENT TO BE.



By Herbert Mtowo

I am sure we all heard of the old statement that goes: “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink”. Is this true? How would you motivate the horse to drink? What is motivation? How do you get motivation to work? There is so much theory on motivation but what works in the real world, but I am sure we can look at it from various angles, and probably debate about it forever. But the point is, inspiring others and being inspired to accomplish great things in life is something we all need to have.

Motivation is the reason for acting a certain way. It’s the desire to do something for a desired outcome.

Goals motivate us as does fear, pain, pleasure, along with a whole host of other reasons. If we know these things motivate us, how do we use this for the good of those around us? How do we get people to do the right things for the right reasons, even when they think differently?

In the old saying above about the horse, there are a few ways to motivate the horse to drink. You can work him thereby creating a thirst or you could add salt to his feed or you could do both. Now when you lead him to the water, he will drink on his own, problem solved. You just had to get him thirsty enough to want to drink on his own!

In the case of people, we need to make them thirsty enough to want to do what is best in order to get them to act in their self-interest. You just need to add salt! Your salt should be whatever motivates those you are concerned about. It might be money, things, food and shelter or it could be recognition, peer approval, etc. It could also be all of these things.

Our job is to find out what motivates those around us and work with them to help them reach their full potential. By helping them reach their goals they will inadvertently help us reach our goals. Make sure that you totally focus on their goals.

As I have set and talked to many of my friends in the sales and estate business, most of them admit openly that, to survive one has to be highly motivated and have loads of inspiration to survive and make it in the field. One of them clearly laid it out for me by saying, if you are working with someone in estates, pressuring them to reach their quota is the old method that really doesn’t work for everyone involved. They may reach their quota but they resent the pressure. Why not take time, to find out what their goals are and help them to see that it will take so many calls, letters, follow-up, etc., to get enough appointments to make enough sales to earn enough to reach their goals, doesn’t that sound much better?

You were born a winner and a champion, get motivated to live the life you deserve and help others to get motivated as well!


It’s always a nice feeling to watch your competitor pick up their ball and bat, lower their head and walk home pouting. It’s not about having a bully mentality and enjoying others pain because you haven’t dealt with your own personal demons. It’s about not giving up like so many of us do. Who give up-end up rendering themselves useless? Yes, they do.
Staying power is much like a skinny, 5′ 3″ teenage girl bench pressing 150 pounds. It’s not something that most 5′ 3″ teenage girls can do or even fathom trying. With the determined mind-set, she will be able to lift that weight soon enough. You must know what stuff you are made up off, if you are to swim and cross oceans to get to you dreams. Sad though many of us give up too soon, at the slightest opposition and resistance we quit just too soon, fold our hands in despair.

You and me need “Staying Power!” I few are to ever make it in this world and life.
It is the ability to obsessively stay focused on your goal of achieving whatever it is you set out to do without blinking an eye. Similar to chaining yourself to a tree so that the loggers don’t chop it down or your hands are tied behind the chair you’re sitting in, under the hot bright light shined in your face being harshly questioned and you refuse to tell… no matter what, you are committed to stick it out no matter what it takes or how bad it feels.

When you hear about something that is mind-blowing and you want to do the same thing. First, ask yourself if you like the “idea” of it, or if you really have what it takes to make it happen. The point behind these two questions is time.
It’s OK to like the idea but not want to do it. It makes you no less of a person. In fact it shows that you know yourself and your capabilities. You have the wherewithal to make smart decisions and not waste your time or anyone around you.
If you know you have what it takes to make it happen, that makes you no better of a person. The same applies to you. You know yourself and your capabilities and have the wherewithal to make smart decisions.

Those who “like” ideas and try to go for it are the ones who end up taking the bat and ball home with a heavy heart. They tend to blame others for their shortcoming during that event. They now have become useless in their minds and project that onto others around them.

Those who “know” what it takes to make it happen shine and explode with power because they have now proved to themselves they have what it takes! They now have a “rock-star” mentality and everyone around them wants to celebrate with them! Paul says, “I have fought a good fight of faith, I have kept my faith, my crown awaits me”. Such are the results and rewards of sating up and fight another day, another battle, you can`t just be denied, NO you can`t.
So what does “it” take?

Sure determination and you have to “want” it badly enough. That’s it. Little facts or figures play into that feeling. In fact none do. It feels like you’re being called to do something extraordinary! Way too many of us spend too much time fighting that calling, the lure to go for it and jump without looking.


We are all poets when WE FIND TRUE LOVElove-wallpaper8
As I watch the smooth blend of the sky & the sea,
I look above and thank God, for bringing you to me…
You are the precious woman, who has the irresistible smile,
Your love is as deep as the Atlantic Ocean
Your slender and lovely body makes you look like a princess,
Your beauty leaves me stupefied & I end up saying..”What a creation of goodness!!”
Your sweet voice is like chocolate to my ears,
I would give up anything, to hear it for years & years…
The soul that you have is analogous to purity,

“You are the one!!” my heart gives me the surety…
Thinking about you makes me wanna be a better man,
And now am becoming the man, in you I have found my match
And keep on this refinement till i become what you would call, “The Man”…
I don’t know if I am the one made for you,
But “You are the one for me” is what I believe is true…
Today, I just wish to make a confession about reality,
Meeting you, my love, was my life’s best serendipity…

I couldn’t have asked for any better a soul mate,
This I know, because God has already decided the best, as you, for my fate…
God makes everything beautiful In His own time..
One little promise that I would like to make,
I would be you soul, your shadow, be it my life at stake….
I promise to pamper you all my life…
Give you all my love & care, my dearest…
I would be a friend, in your times of despair,
Like a mother, would hug you to make sure, things repair…
I promise to be your “all-in-one” family,
And live the rest of my life with you, married happily….
We all become poets when love comes knocking at our door step and all sleep is gone, because reality of love has dawned on us.



By Herbert Mtowo

We all want true love. We search diligently for it, sometimes it takes years to find the right mate. Then things are hot and heavy for the first several months. We feel totally satisfied and like we have found our soul mate. Everything looks rosy.

But then the honeymoon phase ends and we start to separate some and get on with our own goals and career and true love can start to fade. We can start to feel like the love is leaving our relationship. How could something so special start to go away? Why don’t I feel as close and loved as I used to? One thing we should all learn for as long as we live,its the skills and passion to kep the fire burning,its our responsibility to do so.

These are issues we all must face, because, unlike in romantic comedies, you don’t fall deeply in love and feel that feeling forever. It waxes and wanes, it goes away, it comes back. That’s going to happen. You can count on it. The trick is to develop habits and practices that help love to grow and sustain itself in the relationship. The more of these practices we have the better the quality of our relationship.

One such powerful practice that helps keep true love alive is being interested versus interesting. “Interesting” people try to maintain relationships by having things to say, by focusing conversations on themselves and the dramas in their lives. There is nothing wrong with this, of course, and you need your mate to have things be all about them from time to time.

However, another powerful strategy for maintaining love in a relationship is to be “interested” in your mate on a regular and frequent basis. This may seem obvious, that all lovers are interested in their mates, so let’s go into greater detail. There are many ways to be and show interest in your mate.

One way is to show interest in their daily dramas. We all have daily dramas. It could be the boss at work is getting on our case. It could be we aren’t sure the teacher for our six year old is paying enough attention to their needs. It could be that we are feeling sad and we aren’t sure why.

If you are alive, you have some daily drama. That’s just the way it is. You are going to have some worries and concerns, some little victories and defeats, each day or week of your life. Well, to help keep true love alive, you simply need to pay attention to your partner’s daily dramas. Find out what they are worried or concerned about. Know what victory or successes that are striving for, what failures they are seeking to avoid.

Next, chat with them every day about those things. This is called “small talk.” Ask your mate about how the boss treated him or her today, did it get better or worse? Ask about how the teacher dealt with your child over the homework issue. Studies have actually shown that the more small talk there is in a marriage, the happier the couple is.

So being interested in your mate may sound like a small, obvious thing that you are already doing, but many of us over time stop checking in on the little things, and having small talk about them. Show continuing interest in the daily ups and downs of your partner, discuss them frequently, and you can help keep true love alive between you over the is stronger than death,and when you find it,or the woman or man Noziyou love,cherish them,adore them,make them the Queen of your heart,love as if you have never been hurt before.