The cry of my heart -(We need real men and leaders!)

Kids are precious

Kids are precious

Herbert Mtowo
I am a part of what I have classified as the sandwich Generation. The sandwich generation is the bridge between the dying fathers and the rising sons. It is our Generation that is establishing trends, carrying leaders/politicians, church and business leaders forward and beginning to birth sons of our own. It is also our generation that has been raised with a bastard mentality because of a lack of true spiritual, true and solid fathering. We were the first technologically advanced generation that could use technology as a spring board to display the anointing on our lives. We have not been able to be hindered by propaganda, useless rhetoric or out dated political and religious principles. We were told things such as in order to be validated as leaders we needed leadership succession. The issue was that many of the leaders telling us this did not have leadership succession themselves, that is why they are what they are today, reckless, heartless and careless leader. Our generation was the first to truly question the authenticity of our leader’s credentials, be they church leaders, politicians and business leaders alike. This is not being done out of rebellion but it is being done out of necessity to survive.

I am thankful for leaders that we have who attempt to share wisdom and insight with emerging leaders who will become the next leaders of this decaying generation. A set of leaders who are tech savvy and connected to a global community is exactly what this generation is looking for. A set of leaders who understand what it means to be a prince in the politics, business and also churches and use their title to restore prominence to society instead of holding new leaders hostage to outdated political and business thoughts. Who shall mentor the rising leaders of our times and tomorrow, and how will they be prepared when those in office kick them far away from being apprenticed into greatness.

Now we need mentor to mentor not just in an institutional setting but in life and societies in general. It is time that our leaders reach out and extend help to emerging leaders instead of judging them for their lack of regard for the good old boys club. We are not asking to be accepted we are attempting to do the work of mankind worldwide. I am not silly enough to believe that the rise in titles are simply a response to the call of life, but for many that is simply what is happening.

Affairs: keep growing in today`s society

A few days ago after talking to a close,lovely  friend television and radio personality about a soon to be program,on national television  in this beautiful country. I remember saying to her,dear,be prepared for hatred and war,as you have decided to deal with this topic. many a times I have realized,AFFAIRS a

Affairs are devastating

Affairs are devastating

in`t one of the most popular topics today that includes both men and women. Its something people feel like saying,its not my responsibility so why should I worry.

But believe you me,AFFAIRS have seen many a good family and society,and this has become a world wide problem,affecting people of all colors,nationalities and  cultural backgrounds.Collectively you and me have a role to play as we try to deal with this evil. Some years ago i wrote lots of articles on this issue AFFAIRS and had response through email and telephonic-ally  from people,struggling to come to terms with this evil.

In today’s world infidelity is a very common trend. Modern world has become very complex with growth in technology, standard of living, the desire to acquire more and more have certainly affected mind set and level of expectation from his or her partner has also grown with that. We know infidelity is a subjective feeling and growing rate of infidelity has risen several questions likely who is more likely to indulge in adultery? Is it men or women? And what drives them to adultery? And many more such questions are there to be answered.
Who is more likely to be infidel, men or women?
Nobody wants to be cheated in any relationship but cheating in marital relationship is always a devastating experience for the loyal partner. Infidelity is malicious act and is condemnable. But this is also a reality that it has been growing rapidly in both men and women. Initially there was a perception that only men indulge into infidelity but researchers have proved that women also indulge in this malicious act called infidelity .This is also true that percentage of women in indulging infidelity is less than men research  done  has proved this  to be true through their data and statistical report.Nobody wants to be cheated,but my question remains,why do people cheat if marriage,love and relationships.
Are men more likely to cheat/
There has been number of survey in which majority of the results shows that men are more likely to be infidel. Research also shows that men lack self-control and they are more sexually impulsive in comparison to women which are one of the vital reasons why they are prone to infidelity. In a research it was found that more than 90% of the men did not get into a relationship merely due to sex. They claimed it to be emotional reasons like communication gap, negligence, boredom, to boost their ego, etc.
Are women outgrowing in number than men when it comes to infidelity?
One of the most surprising facts is that the rate of infidelity percentage is getting narrow between men and women. Statistical result shows that women don’t cheat for sex reason. Women self-control is higher than men. Reason for infidelity in women more because of emotional grounds like boredom, less attention were given by their spouse but unfortunately it’s been growing rapidly.
Some researchers have found that the reason behind growing infidelity in women is because of financial independence. But it’s true that women who indulge in infidelity are unhappy in their marital life which was reverse in men’s case. According to several research, it has been proved that majority of men claimed that they were happy in their married life.
Whatever may be the reason, it cannot be denied that in today’s world the biggest challenge in the committed relationship is infidelity. Couples spend more time with their co-workers and chances of attraction are higher, internet and advance telecommunication and technology has made cheating and infidelity lot easier than it used to be.

Stressful life and communication gap is also important reason why rate of infidelity is increasing. This is true that changing environment is also a factor but above all relationship is built on trust and loyalty, if that doesn’t exist and people don’t respect each other feeling then infidelity is unstoppable.