It is easy to enter in a relationship. But making it thrive is incredibly difficult. It requires a lot of work. It’s like planting a tree. You need to water it for years. And the time will come when the tree can survive by itself.

But no, not really. A relationship is not generally like planting a tree. Why? Because healthy relationships need constant care. You must water it for the rest of your life.

Most people who failed in their relationships missed the biggest picture. The truth is that a relationship cannot simply work by itself. It needs both parties to cultivate it.

Why do most marriages fail to do so? Simply because most couples are indifferent – they often miss (or unwilling to do) the vital ingredients of healthy relationships.

If you are new in a relationship, you can feel the warm, excitement, and care. But can you keep that for years? If you are uncertain, this article is for you. Below are the most basic and yet the most neglected components of a successful relationship.


  1. The magic words.

“I love you.” These words are magical. People in healthy relationships do this all the time. They don’t lose the initial affection and romance. Even you’re in a long-term relationship, whispering these words can be very helpful.

  1. Confidence.

You can’t have a perfect relationship. But you can always find ways to fix things without blaming your partner. Remember that you are a team. Thus, you must work together confidently to solve the problems.

  1. Being considerate.

The primary problem of most couples is that the more they get used to each other, the more they stop to listen to their partner’s opinions or suggestions. This is the time when respect would also gradually fade away. But couples in healthy relationships don’t lose their respect with their partners. They assure that they always listen to each other.

  1. Keeping the flame.

Most relationships struggle to keep the passion. But it shouldn’t be. Passion is the flame that must be kept as you go along on your journey as a couple. Let your partner know that you’re still crazy about him/her. Flirting plays a vital role to bring back the excitement in your relationship.

  1. Gratitude.

A simple gratitude display can bring so much joy. But sadly, most people forget about it. Whatever your partner does, even simple things such as bringing you a cup of coffee to your study room, s/he deserves a “Thank You.” Do it all the time and you and your partner will nurture respect and happiness.

  1. Accountability.

Yes, you may be a smart person. But you are not perfect. It means that you can potentially commit a mistake. When that happens, don’t hesitate or forget to say sorry. Couples in healthy relationships are always responsible for their behavior. They are honest about themselves. They acknowledge their responsibility of fixing their mess.WHAT MAKES A RELATIONSHIP BETTER.

  1. Encouragement.

As a couple, you may have different choices and aspirations. But such difference must not create conflict. Healthy relationships have one thing in common – encouragement. This means that both parties support each other. Remember that you are a team. Do not turn your back on your partner. Support him/her instead. Encouragement makes healthy relationships even healthier.




By Coach Herbert

Many people grow up in this world being conditioned to be timid, afraid and think that they cannot learn. They say, ‘I don’t know how to do it’, ‘I don’t know what to do’, and ‘I am not good enough’. Forget what you think you know about success, many people have a negative outlook on their life and expect to attain success. You will never succeed with that type of mentality. You can learn anything that you want to learn, you can grow as an individual, you can do it, you can figure things out, and you are good enough.

The best way to learn is to take action, sitting around wishing and hoping for things to change will not bring about positive change. Positive change is a result of you taking new action in the direction of what you really want. Action is what makes you stronger, action is what breeds confidence within you, action is what makes you fearless, and action is what makes all the difference, that is what separates the successful from the unsuccessful.

The way to learn to do something is to ‘DO IT’. If you do the things that you find hard you will learn and they will become easier for you eventually. Sitting around and not taking action and just settling for a meager existence is easy, look around you, most people are caught up in auto-pilot mode, they do the same average things day after day. If you want that life then don’t take any action, don’t do the things that you find hard, don’t try anything new, don’t go after what you want, just be a coward, and you will be among-st the sheep, who are heading nowhere, but going round and round in circles, living the same year over and over again. People are blind to this fact, it comes from being in a state of sleep, and people need to be awakened and made aware that there is more to life than just living to pay your bills.

Many people overwhelm themselves by thinking of what they want to accomplish, they think that it is too far fetched. Nothing is impossible, you can learn anything that you are determined to learn to succeed. The best way is to start small by breaking up the goal that you want to achieve, break the goal into small tangible tasks that are attainable so that they accrue into the attainment of your goal.

The only way you can get better at something is to engage in it, the more you engage in what you perceive to be bad at the better you will get at it. However, please note this down, you are not born bad at something, you just have not learned how to do it. But many people make the assumption that they should be experts in the field before they take action, allow yourself to be a beginner, everyone starts at the bottom, you must work your way up to the top.

Let me conclude, you can learn anything that you want to learn, you are capable, you are able, you are special, you are blessed with gifts that you do not know about yet, you have the potential to achieve amazing things, and you can live a life of greatness. Take action in the areas that are aligned to your dreams and goals and learn what you need to learn. Don’t ever give up.IMG-20170714-WA0024

If others have done it so can you, never let others tell you otherwise. It’s your choice who you choose to become, and your daily actions determine who you become and how you will live your life. You have to push yourself to do what needs to be done to take your life to a whole new level. It is up to you if you succeed or fail.



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By Coach Herbert

For the past couple for days if not weeks, I have been having conversations with a former high school mate. She was extremely gifted, she had such aura, beauty, brains and very much athletic and I still believe she still is if not more refined now and more all-round mature.  Much of our convos have been centered on what we can be, do and accomplish and do to mankind. I even went as far as talking about her on one radio talk show program as how much I saw of her way back then in the past during high school.  She is so sure and distinct about her path now and what she is meant to be and do in life. I said to her.” My dear go for you passions you have all that it takes to be one of the best and at the top of your game and dwarf and surpass all who speak and write. This article was birthed through such convos and other things I observe about life.

The choice is truly yours. If you don’t work for what you want you will have to settle for what you don’t want. This is the life many have chosen to live. There is a mass resignation to the average life, many people have thrown the towel in, many people have given up before they have even begun, and do you see that? Are you one of those people who have not even tried but you have already given up on yourself? What a timid way to live your life, what is the point in being a coward? What good does it do for you to just sit around being a part of the crowd? Or you choose to follow the masses into a life of conformity. In my soon coming book to be published Manage your Fears,-before it’s too late, a must read for the serious minded about potential and accomplishments in life.

Cowards die daily, the hero within you wants to be brought forth but many just choose to silence that voice with the voice of fear. The voice of fear becomes greater than their belief and then they just do absolutely nothing to change their life, and end up being a little timid individual, complaining about how hard life is, what is so hard in sitting around complaining? It takes no effort to utter words of misery, it takes courage to get up and take action in the direction of your dreams.

Be an action taker, not an excuse maker. Be focused on action, not on inaction. Be solution orientated, not problem orientated. Be motivated, rather than demotivated. Be obsessed, rather than being average. Just the way you build a house, design your life. Take one step at a time; one day at a time, one task at a time, and one goal at a time.

If you don’t make time for what you want and how you want to truly live your life no one else will, do what you love, do what makes you happy, do something that fuels your joy, do something that makes a positive difference in the world, and do something that helps to advance humanity to a greater level. Follow your bliss, and awaken to the realization that life can be lived in whatever way you want to live it. Don’t just hope it will work out in your favor, do the work and do whatever it takes to make your dreams a reality, whatever it takes is the mindset of champions, champions do what needs to be done, they believe that success is inevitable, they expect to succeed because they are putting in the work every single day no matter what.

It is through action that the life we seek comes to the fore, it is with action that the invisible becomes visible, it is with action that the formless takes shape and materializes and takes form. The dream life within your mind is real, never be told otherwise, your imagination backed up by action will bring you a life of prosperity and abundance. The only opinion that matters on this journey is your own, separate yourself from the masses, be an anomaly, take the path where few go, where many desire to be, where the courageous reside, where the risk takers dwell, where the action takers fight for the things that they want. Leave the herd, leave the cowards, leave the lazy people, leave the unambitious folk, leave the entertainment lovers, leave the excuses makers, leave the time waster, leave the procrastinators, leave the sheep who do nothing with their time because they are so busy engrossed by the bullshit people like to call a normal life.

For the next  days be tougher on yourself so that you take your life to a new level, how many more days, week, months, and years do you want to remain on the level you are on now? How many more years do you want to continue to live the life you are living? Think about that, if you continue to do what you are currently doing where are you going to be 6 months from now? Where are you going to be 1 year from now? Where are you going to be 5 years now if you keep up with your daily habits? Please sit and think about that deeply, take 10 minutes and really think about that point.

Life has made me realize and observe that, successful people get ahead while others are sitting around being average, the time the majority waste the successful, ambitious, hungry individuals are getting ahead, time is the greatest resource that you have, you have to learn to use your 24 hours in the most productive manner so that you are on course to achieve your goals and live life on your own terms. Each day you are either moving in the direction of your dreams or you are not, do not just throw the anchor in and settle for where you are now just because you have found a little comfort, go to the rough seas, go to the places that are unexplored, go to the unknown lands that will test your character and help to develop you into a more actualized individual.

I say to you all, believe in yourself, take daily action that will move your life to a greater level, focus on the key tasks that will really make a difference in your life, make the next couple  months different from the last, half a year has gone what you have done in the first half of this year? How much have you really progressed with your dreams? Commit to making your dreams a reality, commit to do what needs to be done, commit to be among-st the best, commit to mastery, commit to win, commit to be a champion, commit to excellence, commit to fight for what you want, commit to living life on your own terms, and make a commitment to yourself that you will persevere until you succeed.

Thanks for the conversations’ we have had they have been so enriching to me, am truly inspired.I have observed you and admired you since high school days,hope to see you step up and take your place at the top.