Cheron K Griffin with guest Coach Herbert -Don`t miss this one .

The link for the talk is below.Make a date Friday night in the comfort of your bed,check times,02:30 am-3:00 am South Africa times.

Lets talk about it,why many women are struggling to get a good man.

I am on this talk show Saturday 5th September. Time: 02:30am-03:00am Southern African time

The link is

The link to my talk show One on one with Cheron in relationship she’ll be talking about why women struggle to get married 134 Reasons why ladies don’t get a man from.her book .

Cheron Griffin s a known talk show host in USA.

As the dear pants for water

By Harry Plantinga
As the deer pants for flowing streams. What does the inner life look like of one who is making progress in the spiritual life? Psalms 42 and 43 give us a peek.
Such a one is consumed by a burning desire for God, a desire so strong that it may be compared to a deer’s desire for water in a dry and thirsty land. It overwhelms every other desire. It is a desire to see God, to be in his unmediated presence, to see his face.
Such a one, in a dry place, remembers better times—times of going up to worship with the throng, of being in God’s presence. Times of shouts and songs of thanksgiving. These memories help to firmly place hope where it should be, in God.
In that dry place, such a one is overwhelmed by the roar of a waterfall, tossed around by waves and billows. How can the desert be a place of waves and billows? Maybe this land is only dry and deserted on the surface.
When enemies oppress, when wounds afflict, when adversaries taunt or slander, when God seems absent, when soul is cast down and disquieted, such a one remembers God, the rock of salvation, helper, steadfast lover. Such a one prays by day and sings songs of praise by night. God’s light and truth lead such a one to God’s holy hill, to his dwelling, to his altar, with exceeding joy, with music, with praise.
Do you desire to pray by day and sing songs of praise by night? How does one pray continuously, as Paul directs, when business and busyness and the bustle of the world demand attention?
Earworms. If you can get a song of praise looping in your head, you can quite literally pray continuously, even while attending to other business. Or it can be a short prayer, attached to some other repetitive or frequent activity, such as your breath cycle.

How to accomplish your goals

One of the challenges I have realized in life when it comes to setting up goals and accomplishing them is that people hardly set up goals.Its either people are too busy doing nothing and will forever have countless excuses why they aren’t setting up goals.

Set a realistic but challenging/inspiring goal.

Take a big dream, like “I want to be famous”, and break it down into smaller, more manageable steps, like “I want to star in a science fiction movie”, “I want to go to three auditions a week”, “I want to move to another city” and “I want to save $5000 so I can move.” Make the goal big enough to challenge and excite you, but not so big that you hesitate to take the first steps.

Plan ahead.

Once you’ve broken down your goal into pieces, write down the steps on a piece of paper to make sure you have everything thought out. One of the worst things that can happen is you’re almost to the point of your goal, but you’re not sure what to do next. Also, give yourself deadlines for each step. Otherwise, you’ll end up procrastinating and never achieving your dream.

Brainstorm ideas. Are there different ways to reach your goal?

Write everything down that you can think of in three minutes, no matter how silly or impossible it may seem. For example, you could go to acting school, or maybe you could land a spot in a reality show that would get you started.


No one can tell you exactly what you should do to achieve your goal, but one of the best sources for guidelines is to ask those who have done what you hope to achieve. Learn from the experience of others without trying to imitate them.

Define and describe your goal.

Write down when you want to achieve it. Write down the reasons why you want it. Write down what it would feel like after you have achieved it. Figure out exactly what it will take to get it. Be realistic about the time things will take. Many people don’t allow themselves enough time, and give up too soon.

Be positive.

Your goal should be written and have positive intent about what you want to bring into your life. This is very important, since the focus of your goal should not be centered around describing a problem you want to eliminate.

Make contingency plans.

Never forget about the problems that might come up on the way, and prepare for them. Positive thinking is important, but preparedness is better than being shocked or devastated when obstacles appear.

Learn from mistakes.

Making mistakes should be a subject at school to teach all children how to learn from them, instead of trying to avoid them. In the pursuit of a goal, you are likely to make some mistakes. Don’t see them as bad or get angry. They are important to correct you and to lead you to success.

Draw on all your past achievements that are relevant to your goal.

No matter how small you perceive your achievements, list them anyway. It could be something small, such as joining a healthy eating mailing list, to coming home from work late, yet preparing a tasty nutritious meal for your family in under 30 minutes. Once you review your list, you will be amazed at how all those small achievements soon add up, and how much you are really capable of doing.


Close your eyes and imagine yourself accomplishing your goals. Where are you? How did you get there? How do you feel? Do this often. Don’t get swayed easily with the noise and happenings going on outside. Put your attention on what you are trying to achieve. Remember the goal, and you will have control over the discomforts and difficulties. A good way to visualize is to practice self-hypnosis.

Listen to your internal dialogue.

What you are saying inside affects you physically, emotionally and mentally. Is your defense system inside trying to make you stick to your past, limiting beliefs and perceptions? Take over and challenge your inner critics. Monitor any excuses you might be making in relation to your goal. For example, saying “I don’t finish work until late and won’t have time to cook!” You must recognize that if you are truly passionate about your goal, it is up to you to make time.

Make a list of your personal strengths in relation to your goal.

For instance, if you have a healthy eating goal you might want to consider strengths such as your level of commitment to eating healthily, or the fact that you enjoy cooking and experimenting with new recipes or even that you are an excellent cook. The list of personal strengths you can draw up is endless.

Seek help.

Find the information, skills and knowledge that you need from other people, books, and audio or video programs. Speed up your learning process by emulating what other successful people have done. You save time and get results faster. Self-hypnosis audios are a powerful way to help you get fast, permanent results.

Create benchmarks or milestones.

A benchmark is something you can use to measure your progress and know you’re on track. For example, you can write “The first stage of reaching my goal will be done when I’m in the Entertainment section of the newspaper!” or “I’ll know I’ve reached my goal of being famous when I’m a guest on Oprah.”

Make a timeline.

Draw a horizontal timeline with a dot at each end. The left end represents now, and the right end represents a point in the future. Specify what you want to happen and when, from now until then.

Be passionate.

Striving towards a goal without passion is like a fire which slowly runs out of fuel to burn. Get excited; this will mean that you will love what you are doing. Methodically check your behaviors against impassioned dreams developed as a child. Always share the child within amongst your potential peers. This empowers the Law of Attraction that shapes the dreams of the child into the creative force of the adult.

Revisit, evaluate, and if necessary, adjust your goals.

Keep a written record of your goals in a place where you’ll remember to read them every day. They’ll change and adjust over time as your life does, so keep them up-to-date.
Consider new opportunities and options that come your way.

Sometimes things have a way of unintentionally leading you exactly where you want to go.
Start working towards your goals today.
Ask yourself, “What can I do today to get one step, however small, closer to achieving my goals?”


Now that you’ve got the momentum going, don’t let it stop! Some steps may seem less exciting than others, but make sure to stick to your plan until the end!


Coach Herbert

This is your life. Become Aware of the Truth. No one is forcing you to do anything that you don’t want to do. You aren’t here on earth as a punishment to live and pay or some crime that your parents of family has committed, but you are here to live your life, your life lite it as you.

I hope you get this clear in your mind that, nobody is forcing you to live a lie. I can also remind you that, No one is making you go and do a job that you don’t want to do. You have the choice to live life on your own terms, the choice is still with you so don’t blame no parents, no society no government, no husband, no wife and pliz wake up and stop blaming people this is your life.

Now and then I see that many people seem to forget that they do have a choice in how they want to live their life. But many people resign themselves to living a life that they don’t want to live and spend the rest of their days complaining about their situation and all their money problems.

From this day, week and year hear me and hear me well, start to eliminate the things that you hate to do or the people you don’t want to be around. Get rid of the habits and people that are keeping you from living your greatest life. Sacrifices must be made in the pursuit of a greater life, self-denial for the greater good, for humanity, for a life of service is essential, so it seems.

Many of your reading this article, really need to take an introspection into your lives and distance yourself from the mediocre activities that resign you to an average life and engage daily in those activities that elevate you and your life on a trajectory to massive success.

Success is inevitable to those who take daily action on the right tasks. It is inevitable, success will be yours, as Jim Rohn  once said: “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines practiced every day.” Small daily wins lead to stunning results, a year from now, five years from now, and ten years from now.

Take time to develop your life by doing, small daily wins which lead to stunning results, a year from now, five years from now, and ten years from now. Where will you be in the future? Who will you be? What will you be doing? Have you thought about this? This is your life so you should make a plan of how you want to spend it, if you don’t, then no one else will for you.

I want you believe in yourself, and know with deep conviction within yourself that you are far more capable than you know, with action in the direction of your dreams and by tackling your fears, the real warrior unravels from within, but if you choose to cower away and be timid in life and do not take any action then you will live a life of mediocrity, what a shame it is, that many CHOOSE to stay trapped in a life that they hate rather than build the life of their dreams.

You can fly as high as you desire. You can soar with the greats. You can be legendary.

You can do this. Yes You Can. This is your life. Take full responsibility.Best wishes to you you all. This is your life make the best out of it. peace and Love to you.




Coach Herbert. .

People get so busy making a living that they never get round to designing a life, and they don’t even start pursuing their dreams because they become so overwhelmed with excuses and paying their bills.

Many people are drowning in excuses of why they can’t live their dreams and why they can’t get started on a life that they actually want to live.

The fake life enslaves many people to a life of misery, humans resemble the hamster going round and round on the wheel, doing the same things every single day hoping to make positive strides to a greater life, but are actually getting nowhere in relation to their dreams.

If that is the life that you have given in to then know that you will be betraying yourself to a life that is well below your true potential. It is a crime against yourself to settle for less than you deserve.

Whose life are you living? Who’s fooled you into living a life of cowardice? And who’s sold you into a life that is not of your own making?

You have to define success on your own terms based on how you want to live your life. The choice is ultimately yours how you live, but many just cower away and resign themselves to a life of mediocrity.

Most people have the capability and potential to live their dreams, but how many choose the path of hard work, sacrifice, discipline, dedication, and service?

You must start on pursuing your dreams, you have nothing to lose, you have the ability to live your dreams, you have the strength and power within you to develop yourself to be the right person and to make your dreams a reality.

Five years on what does life look like to you? Who’s life are you living? If you’re miserable and in a life of mediocrity it is your own damn fault because you decided not to start, you decided to invest your time, effort, and actions on entertainment and mediocrity and that is why you are living a life of conformity. You are solely responsible for your life so you must take full responsibility for the results that you get as your results are a reflection of your daily actions.

Every single day matters, and what you do today can change your whole life, every single day you have to be moving in the direction of your dreams or you will be moving in the direction of mediocrity. Time is your greatest resource, so use it well to take your life to greater heights.

Success is a mindset, a behavior, a code of conduct, and a way of life. You have to decide what it is you want and then you have to decide what you are going to have to give up to take your life to a whole new level.

DSC_1995.JPGTake a chance on yourself, get started on living your dreams, take one small step in a new direction, you need not the approval of others to get started, all it takes is action. Action is the key to all success in any area of your life. And action is what separates the successful from the unsuccessful.

You can do it, you can do it, you can do it, don’t be held back in life by the thoughts of failure, be driven by the visions of success, be pulled by your vision of the life that you will be living. Through hard work and dedication, you can achieve anything that you set your mind to.

The time has arrived for you to get serious about living your dreams. I leave you with this, are you ever going to get started on your dreams? Or are you going to live someone else’s life forever?




IMG-20170713-WA0050Coach Herbert

The attitude of success, the mantra of champions, the belief and hunger to do whatever it takes to succeed and live life on your own terms. It requires no major effort to live a normal life.

You must push yourself and see how far you can truly go. Get uncomfortable, do the things that you want to do and don’t be held back by hallucinations of failure. Many people love and envy the successful life, but they aren’t ready to step out and date to dream.

Many people are experts at predicting failure but they find it so hard to envision a life of success, abundance, and prosperity. As many people choose to surrender to a life of mediocrity rather than pursue a life of greatness.

Life can be lived in whatever way you want to live it, it’s up to you to define it the way you want it to be. Life is a matter of choice, become fully aware of that and do take full responsibility.

If there are areas in your life that you are not thriving then you must take action. Action is the key that helps you to make progress to a higher level. Inaction is what destroys people from within slowly day after day. Take a look around at your own life and those around you, the procrastinators and timid individuals who are living well below their true potential.

The more you do something the better you get at it, it works both ways, in terms of good and bad actions and habits. Take action on the areas that you would like to improve, as that is the only way that you will truly know what you are capable of achieving.


If you do not take action then things will not change much for you. Many wish and hope something outside of them will change for the better, but they never seem to look inwards and see that the problem lies within, within is the place you must make the changes, true change starts within. The world does not give you what you want it gives you what you are, who are you inside of yourself?

If you want the entrepreneur’s life then develop the attitude within you that you will do whatever it takes to take your life to where you want it to be. Develop a sense of urgency to live the life you have imagined, time waits for no one, so step up your game, small incremental changes on a daily basis will propel your life to greater heights.

Make steady progress and be consistent, every single day you should be getting better and stronger within yourself, you should incorporate Daily Rich Habits, you should be more productive with your days, you should eliminate dream-crippling habits and activities that delay the realization of your dreams.

Dreams do not come true from being average and doing what the majority are doing, they come about as a result of hard work, dedication, and sacrifice. You must sacrifice your own selfish needs for a greater cause, you must sacrifice for the greater good, you must sacrifice for the life that you want to live and the person that you want to become. We cannot become who we want to be by remaining who we don’t want to be.

Are you really doing what you can do every single day to live your dreams? Or are you just expressing eloquent words but you’re actually not backing that up with a higher level of quality action on tasks that will truly elevate your life? Your results are an indication of are how serious you truly are, results show you how serious you actually are about the grind.

Leave the mediocre lane for good, leave the old life behind, it’s time to soar alone and leave the herd of mediocrity. Elevation requires separation; separate yourself from the crowd so that you can live the life of your dreams. Those who are hungry to make an impact, to serve and make a positive difference in the world do whatever it takes.



Coach Herbert

Some people are so caught up in fighting for their excuses, they have sold themselves short and they keep on repeating the same excuses to themselves that their mind has taken those excuses as facts. Your thoughts shape your beliefs and your beliefs determine your actions, if you think that you cannot do more and become more then you will never try anything different, and you will just settle for a mediocre life.

Many people are asleep to this fact, they have encapsulated themselves into the cocoon of mediocrity with their excuses. Excuses and justifications for why they are not getting started on their dreams, why they are not trying anything different, and why they are not following their passions and interests.

People talk nonsense, but they are not aware, awareness within yourself is what results in a change on the outside. As long as you keep fighting for your excuses, they will always remain and you will always remain where you are and who you are.

I have no time, I have no money, I have no resources, I have no education, I have no connections, I have no means to change my life, this is what many people utter to themselves day after day, thinking that this sort of verbalizing will bring about realization of a greater way of life.

Get real with yourself, take an honest look at your life by looking at the results, the evidence is there for you to analyze if you are successful or moving in the direction of being successful or if you’re unsuccessful and you’re moving in the direction of being a loser, the proof is in the pudding.

Your results are a direct reflection of your effort, determination, goal setting, planning, strategy, vision, ambition, persistence, and action. Be brutally honest in your life, it may be hard to analyze your own life at times for some, but take an outsiders look and see where you can and need to improve, then set some goals, make a plan, and get into action to take your life to a higher level.

The standards you set for yourself will determine the quality of life that you live, hold yourself to a higher standard of not making excuses for anything in life. The mind chatter that tries to instill fear and doubt within you is just the weak version of yourself vying for airtime in the limitless mind within you.

We are limitless individuals who can achieve anything that we set our mind to but the world’s fears, doubts, and timidity get uploaded into our mind and we end up emulating the sheep who are heading for a normal life of mediocrity. Everyone’s definition of success differs, but why not push your limits, be fearless, take action and see how far you can truly go and what you can do, and most importantly how many lives you can touch and improve and what impact you can truly make in the world, this is an exciting journey, the journey from where you are to a life lived in service of humanity.

Take charge of your life and become an action orientated individual, no one cares for your excuses, excuses are lies we tell ourselves to justify our inaction. Once you rid yourself of the excuses your life will change profoundly.19366116_1353191381435595_202443566187608701_n

So make this the day that you make a vow to yourself that you will not make any excuses in any area of your life, you will only think positive thoughts, you will only envision success and you will take action to make your dreams a reality.

What would you do if you only had 5 months to live?

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If you had five months left to live what would you do?

What would you spend your time doing?

What would you stop doing daily?

What would you complete that you have been putting off?

Would you leave your job?

What things would you pursue?

What things would you stop pursuing?

Who would you stop spending time with?

Would you start living life more purposefully?

What would you stop wasting your money on?

Would you go traveling around the world?

What good would you leave for the world?

Who would you spend more time with?

And how would you truly live your life?

The clock ticks, the days pass, how many more days shall you be in a life that is of someone else’s making. You must develop a sense of urgency to make your dreams a reality. Do it now! Do it now! Do it now! Make your dreams come to fruition by completing the tasks that will elevate your venture and your life to a whole new level.

Live each second.

Each moment.

Just LIVE.

Live for what you believe in.

Live for what you strive for.

Live without regrets.

Absolutely none.

Life is temporary, but many get caught up in the trap of thinking that this is never going to end. The end is closer than we think it is but we waste our days engaging in meaningless things that add no value to our lives and that takes us away from the ultimate success.

Life is a gift. Feel blessed for every moment. Be happy. Be joyous. Be grateful and thankful to God. Live each day as if it is your last (in a good manner), as it could be.

Tomorrow is promised to no one.

So don’t waste your life living someone else’s life.

What a shame that will be.

To live a life of cowardice and settle for the life that you have stumbled into rather than becoming the person that you truly want to be.

Believe in yourself and take action.

Get started, get moving, take action daily that will move you in the direction of your dreams. There is no need to live in a nightmare, there is absolutely no need to resign yourself to someone else’s life.

Get busy with making your dreams a reality, or settle for the life that you don’t want. Your life depends upon you taking action, the hero within you must rise up and fly, fly in the direction of your dreams and live the life you have imagined.

Hasn’t the time come for you to go all in on your dreams?

Hasn’t the time come for you to burn the bridges to a life of mediocrity and get on the path of greatness?

Make it happen! Do not wait around procrastinating on life. Be an action taker and live life on your own terms.




It is easy to enter in a relationship. But making it thrive is incredibly difficult. It requires a lot of work. It’s like planting a tree. You need to water it for years. And the time will come when the tree can survive by itself.

But no, not really. A relationship is not generally like planting a tree. Why? Because healthy relationships need constant care. You must water it for the rest of your life.

Most people who failed in their relationships missed the biggest picture. The truth is that a relationship cannot simply work by itself. It needs both parties to cultivate it.

Why do most marriages fail to do so? Simply because most couples are indifferent – they often miss (or unwilling to do) the vital ingredients of healthy relationships.

If you are new in a relationship, you can feel the warm, excitement, and care. But can you keep that for years? If you are uncertain, this article is for you. Below are the most basic and yet the most neglected components of a successful relationship.


  1. The magic words.

“I love you.” These words are magical. People in healthy relationships do this all the time. They don’t lose the initial affection and romance. Even you’re in a long-term relationship, whispering these words can be very helpful.

  1. Confidence.

You can’t have a perfect relationship. But you can always find ways to fix things without blaming your partner. Remember that you are a team. Thus, you must work together confidently to solve the problems.

  1. Being considerate.

The primary problem of most couples is that the more they get used to each other, the more they stop to listen to their partner’s opinions or suggestions. This is the time when respect would also gradually fade away. But couples in healthy relationships don’t lose their respect with their partners. They assure that they always listen to each other.

  1. Keeping the flame.

Most relationships struggle to keep the passion. But it shouldn’t be. Passion is the flame that must be kept as you go along on your journey as a couple. Let your partner know that you’re still crazy about him/her. Flirting plays a vital role to bring back the excitement in your relationship.

  1. Gratitude.

A simple gratitude display can bring so much joy. But sadly, most people forget about it. Whatever your partner does, even simple things such as bringing you a cup of coffee to your study room, s/he deserves a “Thank You.” Do it all the time and you and your partner will nurture respect and happiness.

  1. Accountability.

Yes, you may be a smart person. But you are not perfect. It means that you can potentially commit a mistake. When that happens, don’t hesitate or forget to say sorry. Couples in healthy relationships are always responsible for their behavior. They are honest about themselves. They acknowledge their responsibility of fixing their mess.WHAT MAKES A RELATIONSHIP BETTER.

  1. Encouragement.

As a couple, you may have different choices and aspirations. But such difference must not create conflict. Healthy relationships have one thing in common – encouragement. This means that both parties support each other. Remember that you are a team. Do not turn your back on your partner. Support him/her instead. Encouragement makes healthy relationships even healthier.