Balance and focus is all we need.

focus keep your focusHey focus is the way
By Herbert Mtowo

HUNDRED email messages are waiting for you to read and respond to in the morning. And a book has to be edited and be ready for publishing. The phone starts ringing at 7:00 am. There is GYM sessions to do daily in the afternoon and a meeting with my publishers tonight and a deadline nearing for the next publication, there are ten or twelve new Web sites that you want to take a look at. Somebody told you about an interesting article on my blog and Larry Lewis`s blog too. The phone just keeps on ringing. You’ve got to drop everything to get that presentation ready in time for tonight`s Public Speaking The afternoon email count is 55. On the way to the gym session, you get 8 more phone calls.

Will it ever end? Constantly, relentlessly, day in and day out, at night, on weekends, wherever you are, it just keeps coming. Information, responsibility, decisions, projects. Things demanding your time and your attention, you finish one and three more pop up to take its place.

How can you possibly deal with it all? Don’t you feel like throwing up your arms and screaming?
The need for focus is becoming more and more critical. There is simply too much to deal with. If you are not focused, your time gets eaten away by all the thousands of details that make up life. If you are not highly focused, you’re probably not getting anything accomplished. What we focus on is very important for our lives. It is our focus that bring us riches, love and harmony, but only if used right!

Life never lets up. And now, with computers and the Internet, the problem is worse by an order of magnitude. There is just so much information coming at you. Unless you make a conscious effort to focus your attention, you’ll be mired in meaningless data.

Focus is what ties everything together, gives it a context, gives you something productive to do with it all. Without it, you’ll be pulled in 15 different directions at once, and will never get anywhere. Did you know that if you focus all the energy of a single light bulb into a tiny tiny beam. You create so much focus energy that it could burn trough the sun!

All of us have so much mental energy moving around in all directions. All the commercials that makes us lose focus ass well. You can have it all just not right now! If you only would focus your mental energy on one thing at the time you will achieve so much more in less time than ever before.

Make the decision to focus your efforts. Decide what you want to do today and concentrate on that until it is done. Decide what you want to do this week, this month, this quarter, this year. Because once your daily goals get accomplished, the world is waiting to suck you back in if you’re not focused on the next step. That is why goals are so important. They keep you focused and headed in the direction you want to go.

When you have a clear sense of direction, then everything becomes an opportunity instead of a distraction. All the information that you take in can now be viewed in a context, making it much easier to deal with. All your in-person, email and phone contacts are now opportunities to bounce ideas off of others. Being focused can take all the seemingly unrelated pieces of life and align them to work for you. Remember a successful person always focuses on solutions and where they want to be. They don’t waste time to find out all that can go wrong.
So get a very clear idea of where you are going, of what you want to do. Remind yourself of it often. And almost as if by magic, the energy that is swirling around you will become aligned in the direction of your goals.

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My weaknesses are my strengths

By Herbert Mtowo
“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Did you realize that your weaknesses can contain an overwhelming abundance of hidden positive value? Those who only make use of their strengths are missing a big part of the picture. Use your strengths, to be sure, and also make use of your weaknesses. Even the great Paul of the bible, understood the value of making his weaknesses his strengths, instead of fighting the pain he realized he can embrace and cooperate and live with it to bring the best out of him. God spoke to him, “My strengths are made perfect in weakness”.-2 Corinthians 12:10-I AM STRONG

I am strong when I am weak...

I am my own man..

We all have our weaknesses, and when our goal is to persuade, we need to turn those weaknesses into strengths. Equally important, we need to speak up about them. In most business settings, where persuasion is personal and takes place between two people or a small group, a trait that is perceived by others as a weakness-or that you personally experience as a weakness-sometimes needs to be acknowledged out loud by you. That way, you can control people’s perception of the weakness and recast it as strength.
Your weaknesses represent the areas in which you can make the greatest, most dramatic improvements. Sure, you can improve on your strengths but any improvement will be incremental. However, when you set out to overcome your weaknesses the change can be stunning. For example, instead of saying to yourself “I’m no good at meeting people” consider what an enormous difference you could make by taking it upon yourself to become better at meeting people. By turning around a particular weakness you can have a dramatic impact. Which brings us to an interesting question: What is a weakness? Things such as gender, race, an accent, height, and so forth are often experienced as disadvantages in the workplace even though they aren’t weaknesses in the same sense that, for example, a stutter or dyslexia or extreme shyness is. Because of that, I almost decided to call this article, “Turn Your Differences Into Strengths.” But in addition to sounding way too politically correct, that misses point. If it feels like a weakness to you in the situation where you want to be persuasive, you need to get it out on the table and turn it into strength.
Half the battle is internal. It’s understanding that you’re as good as everyone else, and believing that what you may perceive as a weakness is actually a strength. The Buddhists teach that the thought is the root, and the root becomes the tree. This is true no matter what your personal profile. Believe that your “weakness” is strength, and you will soon see it in that light. It isn’t a matter of fooling yourself; it’s a matter of being open to a different perspective.
In politics, candidates are forced to turn their weaknesses into strengths in a very public way. The most famous example is probably Ronald Reagan’s quip during a debate with Walter Mondale in 1984. Reagan, who was 73 at the time, announced, “I will not make age an issue of this campaign. I am not going to exploit, for political purposes, my opponent’s youth and inexperience.”
The weakness-into-strength positioning begins at the moment a political career is launched, when the first-time candidate is accused of being inexperienced. The standard response is, “That’s right! I am an outsider, and I’ll be a breath of fresh air in the stale, corrupt halls of power.” Barrack Obama stated that in his campaigns’. In the 2008 Democratic primaries, Barrack Obama famously ran on his outsider status against longtime Washington insiders such as Hillary Clinton, Joe Biden, and Bill Richardson.
Obama’s eventual opponent, John McCain, had a different weakness to contend with in the Republican primaries. Despite the fact that McCain had been a U.S. senator for 22 years, he was more widely known for having been a prisoner of war. Rudolph Guiliani, the Republican front-runner at the time, was known for “leadership,” a more positive trait when you’re hoping to be president. McCain’s campaign turned his weakness into strength by concluding his television ads with the words, “John McCain for Commander-in-Chief,” rather than the standard, “John McCain for President.” It emphasized his potential for leadership as well as his military heroism, and helped to shift voters’ perceptions about the traits a president should possess.
In any job, making your weakness your strength is a positive. But when you’re persuading, it’s important to remember the other half of the equation: talking about it out loud, so that the unacknowledged “weakness” doesn’t distract people from your message.
What do you think your weaknesses are? Are they keeping you from starting something new, from pursuing a dream? Sometimes we have fears about our weaknesses without realizing it. Take a minute to think about what you’ve always wanted to do, or what you’re doing now. What are your fears? What do you perceive to be your weaknesses? What are your limitations, and what’s holding you back?
Everyone is blessed with numerous weaknesses. Instead of denying them or trying not to think about them, select a few and make the effort to overcome them. It can be a truly life changing experience.Go ahead turn your weaknesses in 2015 and beyond into your reservoirs of strengths..Make the best out of 2015,remeber you and me only have now and today to accomplishment all that we ant to accomplish in life.

I have become wiser because of my mistakes

Moving-Forwardmaking mistakes

By Herbert Mtowo

Mistakes are great teachers. Success comes to those who are willing to risk making mistakes in the pursuit of a goal, and who are able to learn from those mistakes. And in order to learn from mistakes, you must be willing to pay for them.

If you are not making mistakes, you aren’t doing anything important. You probably aren’t learning anything, either, if everything you do is done perfectly every single time. Learning is a process of trial and error. No trial, no error, no learning.

When you look to others to pay for your mistakes, then you deprive yourself of the opportunity to learn from them. When something goes wrong, it’s usually very easy to find someone else to blame. But what does that really accomplish? Much of the value of mistakes comes from the fact that they exact a cost which must be paid. The person who learns the most from a mistake is the person who pays the price for that mistake.

The facts are irrefutable and beyond question. Mistakes are essential for learning, improvement, productivity and creativity. Mistakes supply feedback for corrective action, contingent options or improvements. If you make no mistakes, you rarely learn much.

Every time I’ve asked people to think of the most painful mistake ever made in their whole life and consider if they would wish the memory to be wiped out, they hesitate. When confronted with the choice of keeping their most painful memory or literally forgetting about it, having it removed from their minds so they will remember nothing about it, they always eventually answer, “no.” Their answer usually surprises them; but when you think about it, you realize that painful feedback is important feedback. You learned from it. The person you are today is a product of all those memories and experiences, good and bad, happy and sad, joyful and painful. Lose the memory of your painful mistake and you lose part of your identity, because that lesson made you who you are today.

No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Let’s learn from them rather than let them rule and ruin our lives. When you make a mistake, the last thing you want to do is run from it. Rather, own up to it. There is much value to be had when you claim it. The mistake has been made, so make the most of it. Pay the price, learn the lesson, and grow that much stronger.

The cry of my heart -(We need real men and leaders!)

Kids are precious

Kids are precious

Herbert Mtowo
I am a part of what I have classified as the sandwich Generation. The sandwich generation is the bridge between the dying fathers and the rising sons. It is our Generation that is establishing trends, carrying leaders/politicians, church and business leaders forward and beginning to birth sons of our own. It is also our generation that has been raised with a bastard mentality because of a lack of true spiritual, true and solid fathering. We were the first technologically advanced generation that could use technology as a spring board to display the anointing on our lives. We have not been able to be hindered by propaganda, useless rhetoric or out dated political and religious principles. We were told things such as in order to be validated as leaders we needed leadership succession. The issue was that many of the leaders telling us this did not have leadership succession themselves, that is why they are what they are today, reckless, heartless and careless leader. Our generation was the first to truly question the authenticity of our leader’s credentials, be they church leaders, politicians and business leaders alike. This is not being done out of rebellion but it is being done out of necessity to survive.

I am thankful for leaders that we have who attempt to share wisdom and insight with emerging leaders who will become the next leaders of this decaying generation. A set of leaders who are tech savvy and connected to a global community is exactly what this generation is looking for. A set of leaders who understand what it means to be a prince in the politics, business and also churches and use their title to restore prominence to society instead of holding new leaders hostage to outdated political and business thoughts. Who shall mentor the rising leaders of our times and tomorrow, and how will they be prepared when those in office kick them far away from being apprenticed into greatness.

Now we need mentor to mentor not just in an institutional setting but in life and societies in general. It is time that our leaders reach out and extend help to emerging leaders instead of judging them for their lack of regard for the good old boys club. We are not asking to be accepted we are attempting to do the work of mankind worldwide. I am not silly enough to believe that the rise in titles are simply a response to the call of life, but for many that is simply what is happening.

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