The cry of my heart -(We need real men and leaders!)

Kids are precious

Kids are precious

Herbert Mtowo
I am a part of what I have classified as the sandwich Generation. The sandwich generation is the bridge between the dying fathers and the rising sons. It is our Generation that is establishing trends, carrying leaders/politicians, church and business leaders forward and beginning to birth sons of our own. It is also our generation that has been raised with a bastard mentality because of a lack of true spiritual, true and solid fathering. We were the first technologically advanced generation that could use technology as a spring board to display the anointing on our lives. We have not been able to be hindered by propaganda, useless rhetoric or out dated political and religious principles. We were told things such as in order to be validated as leaders we needed leadership succession. The issue was that many of the leaders telling us this did not have leadership succession themselves, that is why they are what they are today, reckless, heartless and careless leader. Our generation was the first to truly question the authenticity of our leader’s credentials, be they church leaders, politicians and business leaders alike. This is not being done out of rebellion but it is being done out of necessity to survive.

I am thankful for leaders that we have who attempt to share wisdom and insight with emerging leaders who will become the next leaders of this decaying generation. A set of leaders who are tech savvy and connected to a global community is exactly what this generation is looking for. A set of leaders who understand what it means to be a prince in the politics, business and also churches and use their title to restore prominence to society instead of holding new leaders hostage to outdated political and business thoughts. Who shall mentor the rising leaders of our times and tomorrow, and how will they be prepared when those in office kick them far away from being apprenticed into greatness.

Now we need mentor to mentor not just in an institutional setting but in life and societies in general. It is time that our leaders reach out and extend help to emerging leaders instead of judging them for their lack of regard for the good old boys club. We are not asking to be accepted we are attempting to do the work of mankind worldwide. I am not silly enough to believe that the rise in titles are simply a response to the call of life, but for many that is simply what is happening.

PARENTING— [The cry of a generation].


As the twig is bent, so goes the tree. Eighty per cent of your child’s character is formed by the age of five. Ruth Simmons is living proof. As a child she told one of her classmates, ‘Someday I’ll be a college president.’ That was remarkable, coming from the twelfth child of Texas sharecroppers. Little did Ruth Simmons know that it would be the presidency of Smith College in Massachusetts, one of the nation’s finest schools. Actually, she’s the first African-American woman to head a top ranked college. Since female presidents, specifically black ones are rare, let’s take a closer look. Most success stories begin with parents. In this case, the emphasis is on a mother who stressed the importance of hard work.

Ruth says, ‘I worked hard at everything I did – and not necessarily because I was interested in good grades, or looking for praise. No, I worked hard because that’s what I was always taught to do.’
Peter Rose, a member of the college search committee, said, ‘We wanted to cast the widest possible net, for the best possible person. What convinced us that she was right for the job was; her work ethic, her character, her strong academic performance, and the force of her personality.’ Parent, if you’ll take God with one hand and your child with the other, there’s no telling how far they’ll go!

When Pastor Haman Cross’s unmarried daughter told him she was pregnant, he was stunned. He’d written a book called Sanctified Sex and travelled the nation preaching ‘Just Say No!’ Now he was spending his nights listening to his wife sobbing and his days refereeing family feuds. He wrote: ‘I asked investing in her … forgiving her, as you’ve been God, “How do I model sensitivity and strength?” My answer continues to be, “No Lord, with your help we’ll make It.”’ when my family’s falling apart?” God replied, “Will you quit loving your daughter … James Dobson says, ‘Raising children’s like baking a cake – you don’t realise you have a disaster on your hands until it’s too late!’ In Luke 15, there’s a parable about a rebellious kid who left home and a caring dad who ‘left the light on’ for his return.

What can you learn from him?
1) He was a great role model for his kids.
2) He supported them financially and emotionally.
3) He gave them a heritage.
4) He guided them without forcing them to conform.
5) He gave them room to fail and a place to return.
6) He met them more than halfway.
7) He forgave them.
It’s not an indictment of you when your kids struggle, make bad choices or challenge authority. What does reflect on you, however, is your attitude towards them. They may still be ‘a great way off’ but they need to know that you care and that you’re waiting to welcome them back home.