What matters to you? 

By Larry Lewis

Larry Lewis is my mentor and has hugely influenced my life,sitting atLife  i choose to live by choice his feet as he teaches has been the best experience ever in my life,am highly honoured to be one from Africa to drink from his rich pot of wisdom and inspiring words. Read this believe you me you will get to taste what am talking about..Herbert Mtowo.

I’d like you to ponder the question, what matters to you? This question is simple but often finding your answer is extremely challenging. Yet taking the time to answer this question will provide invaluable insight about your life purpose, values, and true authentic self. These three things will energise your life when you connect to them.

“It’s not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?” Henry David Thoreau

You’re considering what it is that is most important to you in life, what you are pursuing or frequently what it is you’d love to pursue, what it is you want to strive for in your lifetime. Are you seeking power, money, influence, spirituality, contribution, music, soul, truth, influence, awareness, charity, wisdom, charisma? Do you wish to educate, contribute, inspire, love,  dance, sing, create or influence? What areas truly matter to you? Career, Relationships, Family, Spirituality, Health, Self Development or some other area of importance to you.

We often talk about our priorities in life. But how many of us have ever stopped to really think about which things are most important to us, let alone how much time we spend on our priorities compared to less important things?

Since the loss of most of the vision in my right eye I have been taking inventory on what really matters in my world. What I’ve come to realise is that during times of transition, it’s so important to take a deep breathe, then take inventory before taking your next step. It lays the foundation to make sure you get things right. So you need to contemplate the question  “What Matters to Me.”

Sometimes we get so caught up in the need for “more and better” seeking money and power above anything else, that we forget all the things that could make our lives great – which doesn’t necessarily mean a larger bank balance but will create a far more fulfilled life.

Your true calling in life requires deep introspection. What one thing matter more than any other?

To me the first thing that will always come to mind is my family, in particular my 2 daughters and 2 grandchildren. They are my world and bring my joy. But I need to go deeper than this because they may be my creation, but I not only want them to see me as a great dad or granddad but also someone that contributed something to be proud of in his life time.

So I know I want to leave a positive impact on the world, in a way that makes the most of the talents and opportunities I’ve been given. To leave the people with whom I’ve interacted to be better off for having known me, helping them in whatever way that I reasonably can. I want to add value to society.

Research tells us that 97 percent of people are living their life by default and not by design. They don’t know where their life is headed, and don’t have a plan for what they want to accomplish in life. With the events that have shaped my life I just knew I could help people find the answer. Hence I have focused much of my time developing products based on my life story that can help others change their lives so much for the better.

I use my purpose and life plan to make decisions about the projects and tasks that I say yes to.  If a project or task is not aligned with my purpose, a good fit with my life plan, I say no it. My priorities are certain to me. The only way that you are going to find the time for the things that really matter is to say “no” to the things that don’t.

It’s about spending your time on the things that matter most to you before it is too late. Think about what you want most out of life. What were you created for? What is your mission in life? What is your passion? You were put on this earth for a reason, and knowing that reason will help you determine your priorities and how you will have a positive impact on the world.

To find the answer to what matters to you, think in terms of who you are, the lessons and insights that have shaped your perspectives, and the events that have swayed you. How would you want to use these things in a way that will really matter to you.

To create a life focused on what really matters to you, you just have to dig deep into your subconscious and keep asking yourself the question “What matters most to you?” I know there are hundreds of articles showing you elaborate steps of how to find the answer, lots of different questions you can ask, but i believe whole hardly that you just have to ask yourself this one question.

Answers will begin coming to you. Keep thinking, pondering and reflecting. You may create a list of things to do. That’s fine because then all you need to do is prioritise them. Just make sure you take the time to reflect on the question “what matters to you?”

That’s enough rambling from me today. If you’re a regular reader you will know my passion and life’s mission is to help other people lead a healthy and happy life. If this article has helped you in some way give us a like by clicking on the like button below.

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My weaknesses are my strengths

By Herbert Mtowo
“Our strength grows out of our weaknesses.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Did you realize that your weaknesses can contain an overwhelming abundance of hidden positive value? Those who only make use of their strengths are missing a big part of the picture. Use your strengths, to be sure, and also make use of your weaknesses. Even the great Paul of the bible, understood the value of making his weaknesses his strengths, instead of fighting the pain he realized he can embrace and cooperate and live with it to bring the best out of him. God spoke to him, “My strengths are made perfect in weakness”.-2 Corinthians 12:10-I AM STRONG

I am strong when I am weak...

I am my own man..

We all have our weaknesses, and when our goal is to persuade, we need to turn those weaknesses into strengths. Equally important, we need to speak up about them. In most business settings, where persuasion is personal and takes place between two people or a small group, a trait that is perceived by others as a weakness-or that you personally experience as a weakness-sometimes needs to be acknowledged out loud by you. That way, you can control people’s perception of the weakness and recast it as strength.
Your weaknesses represent the areas in which you can make the greatest, most dramatic improvements. Sure, you can improve on your strengths but any improvement will be incremental. However, when you set out to overcome your weaknesses the change can be stunning. For example, instead of saying to yourself “I’m no good at meeting people” consider what an enormous difference you could make by taking it upon yourself to become better at meeting people. By turning around a particular weakness you can have a dramatic impact. Which brings us to an interesting question: What is a weakness? Things such as gender, race, an accent, height, and so forth are often experienced as disadvantages in the workplace even though they aren’t weaknesses in the same sense that, for example, a stutter or dyslexia or extreme shyness is. Because of that, I almost decided to call this article, “Turn Your Differences Into Strengths.” But in addition to sounding way too politically correct, that misses point. If it feels like a weakness to you in the situation where you want to be persuasive, you need to get it out on the table and turn it into strength.
Half the battle is internal. It’s understanding that you’re as good as everyone else, and believing that what you may perceive as a weakness is actually a strength. The Buddhists teach that the thought is the root, and the root becomes the tree. This is true no matter what your personal profile. Believe that your “weakness” is strength, and you will soon see it in that light. It isn’t a matter of fooling yourself; it’s a matter of being open to a different perspective.
In politics, candidates are forced to turn their weaknesses into strengths in a very public way. The most famous example is probably Ronald Reagan’s quip during a debate with Walter Mondale in 1984. Reagan, who was 73 at the time, announced, “I will not make age an issue of this campaign. I am not going to exploit, for political purposes, my opponent’s youth and inexperience.”
The weakness-into-strength positioning begins at the moment a political career is launched, when the first-time candidate is accused of being inexperienced. The standard response is, “That’s right! I am an outsider, and I’ll be a breath of fresh air in the stale, corrupt halls of power.” Barrack Obama stated that in his campaigns’. In the 2008 Democratic primaries, Barrack Obama famously ran on his outsider status against longtime Washington insiders such as Hillary Clinton, Joe Biden, and Bill Richardson.
Obama’s eventual opponent, John McCain, had a different weakness to contend with in the Republican primaries. Despite the fact that McCain had been a U.S. senator for 22 years, he was more widely known for having been a prisoner of war. Rudolph Guiliani, the Republican front-runner at the time, was known for “leadership,” a more positive trait when you’re hoping to be president. McCain’s campaign turned his weakness into strength by concluding his television ads with the words, “John McCain for Commander-in-Chief,” rather than the standard, “John McCain for President.” It emphasized his potential for leadership as well as his military heroism, and helped to shift voters’ perceptions about the traits a president should possess.
In any job, making your weakness your strength is a positive. But when you’re persuading, it’s important to remember the other half of the equation: talking about it out loud, so that the unacknowledged “weakness” doesn’t distract people from your message.
What do you think your weaknesses are? Are they keeping you from starting something new, from pursuing a dream? Sometimes we have fears about our weaknesses without realizing it. Take a minute to think about what you’ve always wanted to do, or what you’re doing now. What are your fears? What do you perceive to be your weaknesses? What are your limitations, and what’s holding you back?
Everyone is blessed with numerous weaknesses. Instead of denying them or trying not to think about them, select a few and make the effort to overcome them. It can be a truly life changing experience.Go ahead turn your weaknesses in 2015 and beyond into your reservoirs of strengths..Make the best out of 2015,remeber you and me only have now and today to accomplishment all that we ant to accomplish in life.

I have become wiser because of my mistakes

Moving-Forwardmaking mistakes

By Herbert Mtowo

Mistakes are great teachers. Success comes to those who are willing to risk making mistakes in the pursuit of a goal, and who are able to learn from those mistakes. And in order to learn from mistakes, you must be willing to pay for them.

If you are not making mistakes, you aren’t doing anything important. You probably aren’t learning anything, either, if everything you do is done perfectly every single time. Learning is a process of trial and error. No trial, no error, no learning.

When you look to others to pay for your mistakes, then you deprive yourself of the opportunity to learn from them. When something goes wrong, it’s usually very easy to find someone else to blame. But what does that really accomplish? Much of the value of mistakes comes from the fact that they exact a cost which must be paid. The person who learns the most from a mistake is the person who pays the price for that mistake.

The facts are irrefutable and beyond question. Mistakes are essential for learning, improvement, productivity and creativity. Mistakes supply feedback for corrective action, contingent options or improvements. If you make no mistakes, you rarely learn much.

Every time I’ve asked people to think of the most painful mistake ever made in their whole life and consider if they would wish the memory to be wiped out, they hesitate. When confronted with the choice of keeping their most painful memory or literally forgetting about it, having it removed from their minds so they will remember nothing about it, they always eventually answer, “no.” Their answer usually surprises them; but when you think about it, you realize that painful feedback is important feedback. You learned from it. The person you are today is a product of all those memories and experiences, good and bad, happy and sad, joyful and painful. Lose the memory of your painful mistake and you lose part of your identity, because that lesson made you who you are today.

No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Let’s learn from them rather than let them rule and ruin our lives. When you make a mistake, the last thing you want to do is run from it. Rather, own up to it. There is much value to be had when you claim it. The mistake has been made, so make the most of it. Pay the price, learn the lesson, and grow that much stronger.

Partners in Pain

by Herbert Mtowo

Ruth,Naomi and Orpah


Life has its ups and downs that’s for sure. Sometimes we can go months or years without too many major complications in our lives but eventually we all experience loss, grief, pain, or upset of some sort.I have known pain of loss,deaths,poor health,the pain of being scandalized,and I have known that pain in this journey of life. It’s not fun! Life IS full of challenges, pain, sorrow, and exhaustion. We are fighting off tigers and staring down mice all the time. In reality, I believe there is as much joy in the world as there is pain–sometimes it is just easier to see the pain.

Pain is often disruptive, uncomfortable, challenging and destructive at times, yet it is the most important pillar of personal growth.Pain is part of our life cycles as much as it is part of nature’s cycle. We need to be able to accept and deal with pain to improve ourselves and our lives. Often, this is easier said than done.

Do we welcome pain in our lives? Yes and no. The need to grow, reinvent or progress doesn’t come without challenges. It is in these challenges that we recognize we have to leave the designated comfort zone. We know change has to happen, yet we are reluctant to it because of the strangeness, unknown, discomfort or pain we are experiencing.

Change is therefore motivated by pain – not the pain we are facing when we transition to change, but the pain of staying in the same situation, accepting, knowing we cannot move forward. We don’t want things to stay the same, clearly. But which one of these pains will be less bearable?

The lesson we should all partake in life is to not resist change. As one personal development coach says, “The pain of changing now will always be less than the pain of staying the same”. It’s better to be proactive, then, and seek change before it finds us.

Such is the story of the trio, when their husbands died, Naomi, Ruth and Orpah became partners in pain. Unless you’ve been there, you can’t relate to it. It’s a fellowship that transcends age, race, background and status; it brings the oddest people together. When you’re hurting, don’t look for validation from those who haven’t walked in your shoes. People can’t give you what they don’t have. Often the best they have to offer is the kind of optimism that’s glib and quickly becomes annoying.

Until you can start to make sense of your pain and see the greater good in it, you’ll feel like a victim. But once you see God’s grace at work, and His purpose in it all, you can begin to move ahead…to marry…to have another baby…to get another job… to dream another dream…to live again. Spurgeon wrote: ‘Just as old soldiers compare stories and scars, when we arrive at our heavenly home we’ll tell of the faithfulness of God who brought us through. I wouldn’t like to be pointed out as the only one who never experienced sorrow or feel like a stranger in the midst of that sacred fellowship. Therefore, be content to share in the battle, for soon we will wear the crown.’

Giving up a familiar situation, quitting a safe-perceived but unrewarding job, breaking up a relationship that doesn’t work anymore is painful and launches our minds in a post-mortem “what ifs”. It is natural to feel that change is painful as it involves the loss of a current situation. The truth is that not changing is even more painful.

“Life is about growing. If you don’t change, you don’t grow. If you don’t grow, be prepared to feel massive amounts of pain. You see, life wants the best for us. It wants us to be the best we can be”, writes personal development coach, Dean Cunningham, in his book “Pure Wisdom”. In other words, life wants us to change and to experience the painful transition to change.

Most of us will yearn (even secretly) to change. This is either because we are already in a situation we don’t like or we want to improve aspects of our lives for the better. “If there’s no pain, there’s no impetus to change”, explains Cunningham. Although overcoming a personal challenge is frightening and uncomfortable, instead of treating it like an enemy, embrace it like a friend. It’s a golden opportunity to uncover deep, self-limiting beliefs and replace them with new self-empowering beliefs

When it feels as if all Hell has broken loose in your life, remember, Satan hasn’t snatched the steering wheel from God. No, God’s got it all worked out. Victory is born out of struggle. Be encouraged! God often accomplishes more through our pain than He does through our successes. So, hold on to His unchanging hand!