By Herbert Mtowo

When it rains, it pours, just like people say. In difficult times, when you’re down and out, people whom you think will be there for you might sometimes turn their back. Because they think you’re a loser or something, they wouldn’t have time for you. Then there are some whom you think are your kin or friends, but instead of adding a bit of sunshine to your gloom, they stir up the muddle by coming out or blaming you with your micro faults and blemishes. What seems to be the worst happens at times, but this is a test of grit. Your limits might be stretched, but think of it as an opportunity to go beyond your usual boundaries. You as a person will grow. Difficult times are essentially that avenues for growth. And we all have to grow, or else our character becomes retarded.

It’s disappointing that there are people who like to kick you when you’re down. They speak in the most deplorable way and not encourage you. Keep your patience. There is a time for everything. If people speak ill of you, aggravating your down moments, don’t respond in negative anger. Respond while holding on to your truth and asserting your dignity as a person. Or otherwise, you might just have to listen and keep quiet, especially when you had been at fault. Learn from your mistakes, let positivity rule over your dejectedness. Believe that the sun will come out shining soon, and it will.

At some point in our lives we are going to go through some difficult times. Some of these we bring on ourselves and we usually know it when we do. The thing to do there is just back up and go the right direction. It is because we want something so bad that we are willing to put ourselves and those around us through the difficult time to get it.
I am not a fan of drama. Life has enough drama without us adding more to it. Keep focused on your destiny and living it out. There will be enough obstacles and situations on that path for you to deal with. However, God is preparing you for each and every one of life’s roadblocks. So, don’t ever give up. You are not a quitter. You can do this; I promise. Keep your head and your shoulders straight. You are a champion and those that stay will be champions.
However, there are tough times that come our way that were meant to help us too. We have to be trained up and made stronger. Going through tests will enable us to be stronger and enable us to walk out our destiny. There will be times we go through situations that make us better people. I know that God tests us, but He never tempts us. So if you are going through a tough situation in your life; check to see if you have a peace about it. If you have peace about it; then you know more than likely it is something that is for you to learn, grow, mature, change and shape you into the destiny person you were created to be. Make the best of the situation you are in now. See the positive that can come from it. If you can’t find the positive that can come out it; then find someone who can see it from a different perspective and get their advice. We were never designed to walk out our destiny alone. That is the reason we have relationships with other folk. Take the time today to look at the situations that you are walking through in your life and decide what you can learn from it. Make sure it was designed to help you; not something you are going through because of your own desires. Hard times can be our friend.


Barack  and Michelle Obama

Barack and Michelle Obama

One night President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious. When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the president’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private.

They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner. Following this conversation President Obama asked Michelle,

“Why was he so interested in talking to you.?”

She mentioned that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her. President Obama then said,

“So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant?,”

Michelle responded, “No. If I had married him, he would now be the President.”

*My people, believe it or not, sometimes its a woman that makes a man who he is…. for the men that are still searching for a wife, may God help you to find that help mate that will turn you from ” A Nobody” to “A Somebody”

For that single lady that is reading this, may you be that blessing no man can do without.


We are all poets when WE FIND TRUE LOVElove-wallpaper8
As I watch the smooth blend of the sky & the sea,
I look above and thank God, for bringing you to me…
You are the precious woman, who has the irresistible smile,
Your love is as deep as the Atlantic Ocean
Your slender and lovely body makes you look like a princess,
Your beauty leaves me stupefied & I end up saying..”What a creation of goodness!!”
Your sweet voice is like chocolate to my ears,
I would give up anything, to hear it for years & years…
The soul that you have is analogous to purity,

“You are the one!!” my heart gives me the surety…
Thinking about you makes me wanna be a better man,
And now am becoming the man, in you I have found my match
And keep on this refinement till i become what you would call, “The Man”…
I don’t know if I am the one made for you,
But “You are the one for me” is what I believe is true…
Today, I just wish to make a confession about reality,
Meeting you, my love, was my life’s best serendipity…

I couldn’t have asked for any better a soul mate,
This I know, because God has already decided the best, as you, for my fate…
God makes everything beautiful In His own time..
One little promise that I would like to make,
I would be you soul, your shadow, be it my life at stake….
I promise to pamper you all my life…
Give you all my love & care, my dearest…
I would be a friend, in your times of despair,
Like a mother, would hug you to make sure, things repair…
I promise to be your “all-in-one” family,
And live the rest of my life with you, married happily….
We all become poets when love comes knocking at our door step and all sleep is gone, because reality of love has dawned on us.


I Have been hurt several times,will I ever love again?

After a few weeks into what seems like a promising relationship, everything grinds to a painful halt. A concerned friend speaks with the girl to find out what exactly is happening. She replies: ‘Peter hurt me. Now I can never love again.’ When I hear about it what comes to my head is one word: ‘really?’

Perhaps, you have heard someone say something similar to the hurt girl quoted above. Or perhaps you have even made a similar comment yourself. If you have not already rescinded that decision, I am completely confident that you will do so immediately after reading this article.

If you think that that the man who says he will never drink water again because his relative has drowned in a river is losing his mind, then surely you agree with me that a girl saying she will never love again is in need of some serious counseling. Throwing your heart away just because you have one bad relationship is like a woman throwing away her baby with the bathwater!

Do you want to spend the rest of your life alone? Do you want to eat, sleep and wake alone, everyday, for the rest of your life? I certainly hope not!

Another reason why you would not want to make a decision like that is: anger can quickly develop into emptiness and misery. Everybody has a space in his heart that should be filled with love-especially that provided by a partner. When this love is not present, however, hate quickly grows in its place.

Therefore, instead of closing up your heart, it will prove a much better idea to do away with all feelings of anger and hatred and thus embrace love again. With the experience of your past mistake you can build a lasting and fruitful relationship this time. ‘There is no remedy for love than to love more’-Henry Thoreau.

Please change your mind now, and avoid ending up like those bitter old women who having refused love and embraced hate, live every moment in sorrow, and hate to see young ones happy.

Let us conclude by returning to the story of the girl quoted at the start of this article; even though her mind seemed made up, with the help of friends and family she slowly recovered from the pain of her heartbreak, became friends with other young men, and of course has settled into another love affair. Hopefully, this time things will turn out right.Move on,I can tell you confidently,allow the wounds to heal you sure can love again.



If you’re currently seeing someone and you want to take it further, how can you make him commit to you? Do you want to be the most important person in your guy’s life? Do you want to speed the relationship along in order to make it more meaningful? If you answered “yes” to these, then continue reading to find out the three “S”s that every woman should know if they want to make their guy commit.

Slow down

It is easy to sexually arouse a man. Honestly, it is biological and in some cases there doesn’t even have to be that much physical attraction involved. Lust is easy and simple and you don’t have to work on it. Push the right buttons and the man is yours. However, if you want to get him to fall in love and make him commit to you you’re going to have to do more.

For that reason, you should delay having sex with him. If you’ve already had sex, then slow it down some and back up. You’re not going to have a meaningful relationship is the physical aspects are all you have to go on. If you don’t form some sort of emotional bond first then your relationship won’t get very far.

Step back

Step back and ensure that you and your guy are on the same page. You want a committed, meaningful relationship. Perhaps he was only looking for a fling. If that is the case, then you really can’t do anything about it. You must communicate your needs to ensure that you both want the same things out of the relationship. If you try to pressure him, it is going to wind up scaring him away, even if he was falling in love with you. Men don’t like to feel pressured. As a matter of fact, women don’t like to feel pressured, either. Reevaluate what you want and go from there.

Savor it

Think of falling in love more as a journey than a destination. Enjoy the time you are spending together and then some of the pressures of the relationship will fall away. If you’re relaxed and having a good time then the relationship can develop at a more natural pace. This is what you want. The slower the process, the longer the relationship will last.

If you want to make him commit to you then you need to let him think that you have all of the time in the world. Cultivate your friendship and focus on the bonding. Soon, you will be on your way to a lasting and meaningful relationship.


Build them and make them strong.

By Herbert Mtowo

Do you long for a lasting relationship? Is your hearts desire to find Mr. Right and live happily ever after? Wonder what it takes to get a guy to commit? Wonder no more. If you answered yes to these questions, read on for ways to get him to commit.

A lasting relationship is what we all want. We long for the one person with whom we can share our lives. While it may seem impossible, there are ways to get a guy thinking long term, marriage and on the path to a lasting relationship.

Set relationship boundaries:

Once upon a time, if a guy wanted a girl all to himself, he HAD to marry her. Today, women are much more independent and in their independence have created a scenario where guys don’t NEED to get married anymore.

If your guy is worth marrying, let him chase you. Encourage him to be the man by calling you, planning dates, and setting the tone and pace for the relationship. Guys are hunters. They enjoy the chase and challenge. Let him do what nature designed him to do…chase after you.

Save sex for way later in the relationship, in fact, consider waiting until you’re married. Yes, that sounds old fashioned and dated, but it works. Companionship and sex are key components to a relationship. Spending time with you is the companionship element, so if you add sex into the mix, why should he get married. He has all the benefits without the hassle.

Leave the games in high school:

Women are adept at playing games and using drama to their advantage. When you want a lasting relationship with a guy, playing games that create jealousy and distrust can spell relationship disaster. Mature woman are honest and forthright in letting their man know how they feel

Shy away from telling him about guys that flirt with you or call you. Refrain from creating situations that don’t exist to make him jealous. It may work short term, but ultimately, if you need to resort to deception to get him to marry you, he probably isn’t right for you.

The path to a lasting relationship is not always easy. By setting relationship boundaries and leaving games behind, you have created a straight line between two points which is always shortest.