What matters to you? 

By Larry Lewis

Larry Lewis is my mentor and has hugely influenced my life,sitting atLife  i choose to live by choice his feet as he teaches has been the best experience ever in my life,am highly honoured to be one from Africa to drink from his rich pot of wisdom and inspiring words. Read this believe you me you will get to taste what am talking about..Herbert Mtowo.

I’d like you to ponder the question, what matters to you? This question is simple but often finding your answer is extremely challenging. Yet taking the time to answer this question will provide invaluable insight about your life purpose, values, and true authentic self. These three things will energise your life when you connect to them.

“It’s not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?” Henry David Thoreau

You’re considering what it is that is most important to you in life, what you are pursuing or frequently what it is you’d love to pursue, what it is you want to strive for in your lifetime. Are you seeking power, money, influence, spirituality, contribution, music, soul, truth, influence, awareness, charity, wisdom, charisma? Do you wish to educate, contribute, inspire, love,  dance, sing, create or influence? What areas truly matter to you? Career, Relationships, Family, Spirituality, Health, Self Development or some other area of importance to you.

We often talk about our priorities in life. But how many of us have ever stopped to really think about which things are most important to us, let alone how much time we spend on our priorities compared to less important things?

Since the loss of most of the vision in my right eye I have been taking inventory on what really matters in my world. What I’ve come to realise is that during times of transition, it’s so important to take a deep breathe, then take inventory before taking your next step. It lays the foundation to make sure you get things right. So you need to contemplate the question  “What Matters to Me.”

Sometimes we get so caught up in the need for “more and better” seeking money and power above anything else, that we forget all the things that could make our lives great – which doesn’t necessarily mean a larger bank balance but will create a far more fulfilled life.

Your true calling in life requires deep introspection. What one thing matter more than any other?

To me the first thing that will always come to mind is my family, in particular my 2 daughters and 2 grandchildren. They are my world and bring my joy. But I need to go deeper than this because they may be my creation, but I not only want them to see me as a great dad or granddad but also someone that contributed something to be proud of in his life time.

So I know I want to leave a positive impact on the world, in a way that makes the most of the talents and opportunities I’ve been given. To leave the people with whom I’ve interacted to be better off for having known me, helping them in whatever way that I reasonably can. I want to add value to society.

Research tells us that 97 percent of people are living their life by default and not by design. They don’t know where their life is headed, and don’t have a plan for what they want to accomplish in life. With the events that have shaped my life I just knew I could help people find the answer. Hence I have focused much of my time developing products based on my life story that can help others change their lives so much for the better.

I use my purpose and life plan to make decisions about the projects and tasks that I say yes to.  If a project or task is not aligned with my purpose, a good fit with my life plan, I say no it. My priorities are certain to me. The only way that you are going to find the time for the things that really matter is to say “no” to the things that don’t.

It’s about spending your time on the things that matter most to you before it is too late. Think about what you want most out of life. What were you created for? What is your mission in life? What is your passion? You were put on this earth for a reason, and knowing that reason will help you determine your priorities and how you will have a positive impact on the world.

To find the answer to what matters to you, think in terms of who you are, the lessons and insights that have shaped your perspectives, and the events that have swayed you. How would you want to use these things in a way that will really matter to you.

To create a life focused on what really matters to you, you just have to dig deep into your subconscious and keep asking yourself the question “What matters most to you?” I know there are hundreds of articles showing you elaborate steps of how to find the answer, lots of different questions you can ask, but i believe whole hardly that you just have to ask yourself this one question.

Answers will begin coming to you. Keep thinking, pondering and reflecting. You may create a list of things to do. That’s fine because then all you need to do is prioritise them. Just make sure you take the time to reflect on the question “what matters to you?”

That’s enough rambling from me today. If you’re a regular reader you will know my passion and life’s mission is to help other people lead a healthy and happy life. If this article has helped you in some way give us a like by clicking on the like button below.

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Partners in Pain

by Herbert Mtowo

Ruth,Naomi and Orpah


Life has its ups and downs that’s for sure. Sometimes we can go months or years without too many major complications in our lives but eventually we all experience loss, grief, pain, or upset of some sort.I have known pain of loss,deaths,poor health,the pain of being scandalized,and I have known that pain in this journey of life. It’s not fun! Life IS full of challenges, pain, sorrow, and exhaustion. We are fighting off tigers and staring down mice all the time. In reality, I believe there is as much joy in the world as there is pain–sometimes it is just easier to see the pain.

Pain is often disruptive, uncomfortable, challenging and destructive at times, yet it is the most important pillar of personal growth.Pain is part of our life cycles as much as it is part of nature’s cycle. We need to be able to accept and deal with pain to improve ourselves and our lives. Often, this is easier said than done.

Do we welcome pain in our lives? Yes and no. The need to grow, reinvent or progress doesn’t come without challenges. It is in these challenges that we recognize we have to leave the designated comfort zone. We know change has to happen, yet we are reluctant to it because of the strangeness, unknown, discomfort or pain we are experiencing.

Change is therefore motivated by pain – not the pain we are facing when we transition to change, but the pain of staying in the same situation, accepting, knowing we cannot move forward. We don’t want things to stay the same, clearly. But which one of these pains will be less bearable?

The lesson we should all partake in life is to not resist change. As one personal development coach says, “The pain of changing now will always be less than the pain of staying the same”. It’s better to be proactive, then, and seek change before it finds us.

Such is the story of the trio, when their husbands died, Naomi, Ruth and Orpah became partners in pain. Unless you’ve been there, you can’t relate to it. It’s a fellowship that transcends age, race, background and status; it brings the oddest people together. When you’re hurting, don’t look for validation from those who haven’t walked in your shoes. People can’t give you what they don’t have. Often the best they have to offer is the kind of optimism that’s glib and quickly becomes annoying.

Until you can start to make sense of your pain and see the greater good in it, you’ll feel like a victim. But once you see God’s grace at work, and His purpose in it all, you can begin to move ahead…to marry…to have another baby…to get another job… to dream another dream…to live again. Spurgeon wrote: ‘Just as old soldiers compare stories and scars, when we arrive at our heavenly home we’ll tell of the faithfulness of God who brought us through. I wouldn’t like to be pointed out as the only one who never experienced sorrow or feel like a stranger in the midst of that sacred fellowship. Therefore, be content to share in the battle, for soon we will wear the crown.’

Giving up a familiar situation, quitting a safe-perceived but unrewarding job, breaking up a relationship that doesn’t work anymore is painful and launches our minds in a post-mortem “what ifs”. It is natural to feel that change is painful as it involves the loss of a current situation. The truth is that not changing is even more painful.

“Life is about growing. If you don’t change, you don’t grow. If you don’t grow, be prepared to feel massive amounts of pain. You see, life wants the best for us. It wants us to be the best we can be”, writes personal development coach, Dean Cunningham, in his book “Pure Wisdom”. In other words, life wants us to change and to experience the painful transition to change.

Most of us will yearn (even secretly) to change. This is either because we are already in a situation we don’t like or we want to improve aspects of our lives for the better. “If there’s no pain, there’s no impetus to change”, explains Cunningham. Although overcoming a personal challenge is frightening and uncomfortable, instead of treating it like an enemy, embrace it like a friend. It’s a golden opportunity to uncover deep, self-limiting beliefs and replace them with new self-empowering beliefs

When it feels as if all Hell has broken loose in your life, remember, Satan hasn’t snatched the steering wheel from God. No, God’s got it all worked out. Victory is born out of struggle. Be encouraged! God often accomplishes more through our pain than He does through our successes. So, hold on to His unchanging hand!